Weight Loss

Stuck In a Diet Rut? How to Easily Get Out of It

* Disclaimer:  I don’t like the word “diet” — but unfortunately it’s what most people trying to live a healthy lifestyle relate to.

Let’s face it — we’re creatures of habit and most often eat the same things over and over again.  And whether you’re trying to lose weight, maintain your healthy lifestyle, or have a healthy relationship with food, it can get pretty boring.

I know even for myself, though I’ve overcome my battle with dieting, poor body image, low self-esteem, and avoiding parties because I felt fat and like crap — and though I do lead an overall healthy lifestyle (chocolate included!) I sometimes find myself in a rut and not enjoying my food or exercise routine.

So What Causes This Rut?

Simply put:  Boredom.  Ourselves, our bodies, and our tastebuds get fed up.  They’re saying:  Another lunch of chicken breast, green beans and brown rice AGAIN?

In addition to just the overall boredom of our tastebuds — by eating the same foods over and over again your body may start missing out on some essential vitamins and nutrients.  So it could be your body’s way of saying “time to shake things up!”

Though strange as it may seem — sometimes I don’t even realize I’m in the rut.  Sometimes it’s the fact that I’ve gone to the candy jar 5 times today (yes, I do sometimes keep candy in my house) and still don’t feel satisfied.  Or it’s the fact that I haven’t wanted to go to the gym for the last 3 weeks, because if I get on that treadmill one more time I feel like I’m gonna lose it!

So here are some easy tips to help get you out of that rut and start feeling good again:

1)  Eat a new food — something you’ve never tried before — at least once this week.  Now when I say “food” I mean a whole food, not the newest version of Snickers with Almonds.  There’s an abundance of real, whole foods out there, but when we go grocery shopping we generally get the same old things.  Try something easy and basic.  Instead of green beans try butternut squash.   Instead of starting your meal with a salad — try an avocado (just cut it in half — so one half per person — add some salt, pepper and a bit of dressing on it and viola!)

2)  Eat something that’s in Season.  I love it when the seasons change as usually by the end of the season I’m tired of the same old things.  Now that Fall is here it’s time for things like squash, cauliflower, pumpkin, sweet potatoes, apples, pears, cranberries, and pomegranates — just to name a few.   So take a look what’s in season in your area, and usually when food is in season it’s cheaper too.

3)  Eat the same food, but prepared in a different way.  Always steam your green beans and just add butter and salt?  Add some blue cheese and walnuts to them instead.  Or maybe try adding some zest from an orange and sliced almonds.  Ditto for your meat or proteins — dig into some of the recipe books you have and try a new way of preparing chicken (try chicken thighs — they’re much cheaper and tastier than chicken breasts).   You might be surprised and find some new favorite recipes.  So do this once this week — prepare your favorite food in a different way.

4)  Try a new way to move your body (ie find a new way to exercise).  Always going for a walk, or doing those exercise DVD’s (maybe not!) or only go to the gym a few days a week?  Try something new!  Even if it’s just one day a week. Try swimming, biking, hiking, dancing, ice staking, yoga, pilates, zumba, kickboxing (you get the idea).  But make sure it’s something that’s FUN for you.  Not only will it help relieve the boredom but you might just find your body responds better by getting firmer (because when you do the same exercises over & over again your muscles aren’t  challenged anymore and could hinder any weight loss).

So getting out of the rut really is quite simple.  Sure it will take a bit of extra effort but it’s minimal and definitely worth it!  Some of my favorite foods are things I tried for the first time I went abroad, and then when I lived in France, and even some are new things I’ve tried within the last year or two.  And I’m always discovering something new.

So get out and try something new.  Your tastebuds and your body will thank you for it!

 

 

 

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Halloween: 9 Tips to Conquer Your Candy Cravings

Remember being a kid and getting all excited about Halloween?  Deciding on who or what you wanted to dress up as, creating a costume, and being able to get all of that candy!!

Yet now as an adult, thoughts of all that candy is the scariest part of Halloween.  There’s just too much of it around and you don’t know how to conquer your candy cravings.

So here are some tips to help you tackle the holiday and manage all of those treats:

1)  Wait to buy the candy until the day of Halloween. Especially if candy is one of your trigger foods. Know yourself.  If keeping it around is going to be just too tempting, then wait until buying it.

2)  Don’t purchase your favorite candy. I know for me, it’s Snickers and Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (and Kit Kat, and M&M’s, and….okay…there’s a lot I do like!)  So buy a candy that’s not one of your faves.  Then it’s a lot easier to say no to and you’ll be less tempted to dig into the candy jar.

3)  Out of sight, out of mind. If you’ve already purchased the candy, keep it away in the cupboards where you can’t easily see it.  If every time I open the cupboard and the candy is staring me right in the face, it’s a lot easier to grab — even if I’m not hungry.  As Brian Wansink, author of Mindless Eating:  Why We Eat More Than We Think, says that he has found that the reason we eat mindlessly “has little to do with hunger.  It’s because we’re getting tricked and encouraged by our environment on a daily, even hourly basis…without even realizing it.”  (By the way, Wansink’s book is great and highly recommended!)

4)  Manage your hunger.  Make sure you eat healthy during the day before the Halloween festivities begin.  Don’t skimp on breakfast, lunch or dinner hoping to “save calories” for the candy.  You don’t want to be hungry while giving out the candy to the trick-or-treaters.  That just sets you up to overeat.  Get lots of protein, fruits and vegetables during the day so you can keep it all balanced.

5)  Get moving. If I get in a workout I’m much less tempted to go overboard with the candy.  Heck, I didn’t just sweat for 30-minutes for nothing!  But seriously, it’s not a thinking of “oh, I just worked out so I CAN eat candy.”  It’s more of “I just took the time to take CARE of my body and I want to continue feeling this way.”

6)  Realize that the whole idea of Halloween is a trick or TREAT.  Back in the day (geez I sound old) a treat was just that — a treat.  Something for a special occasion.  And having candy was one of those special things. It was not something eaten on a regular basis.  Now there is nothing wrong with candy.  But it should be considered a treat.  Something to be eaten from time to time.

7) Stop the deprivation mindset. Candy isn’t ONLY available at Halloween — you can have candy whenever you want!  It’s not something in unlimited supply that won’t be there.  I find for many people this “restricted” thinking makes you WANT to binge or overeat.  Candy isn’t going anywhere (the food companies will make sure of that!).  So hey, if you don’t eat a few mini Snickers on Halloween, no big deal.  You can eat Snickers anytime you darn well please.

8 ) Focus on the fun, not the candy. Remember that Halloween is (mostly) for kids.  Sure, as adults we still go to Halloween parties and dress up — that’s the fun part!  Getting all dressed up and enjoying the festivities.  The focus on Halloween isn’t about the candy (though the candy companies will have you thinking differently).  Just like when you were a kid — it was just as exciting dressing up, going outside (after dark!) and playing a character for an evening.  Sure, the candy was great too, but that wasn’t the only reason Halloween was fun.  Get back to the kid-side of yourself and remember and partake in the fun.

9)  Don’t restrict. Don’t fool yourself by thinking you won’t eat any candy during Halloween.  Go ahead — have some!  But really enjoy it.  Don’t stuff yourself.  Take one piece, and really enjoy it.  Eat it slow.  Feel the chocolate in your mouth and savor it.  Treat it like a treat — something to be enjoyed, savored and delighted.  Not overdone.

So don’t let candy haunt your diet.  Remember to know yourself (like if candy is a trigger food for you) and nothing in excess — and you’ll be on your way to enjoying Halloween without the guilt.

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Secrets to Eating Healthy On the Road…

It seems like everybody is on the go these days.  The lazy days of Summer are over and things are back in full-swing.

This past week I’ve had a few clients who travel a lot, and another off to the in-laws for a few days — and they find it hard to balance eating right and being away from their normal routine.

It’s all too easy to go on a 3-day spree of eating muffins, hamburgers, pizza and cookies.

Okay, there’s nothing inherently wrong with those foods, but eating them for a few days in a row can leave you feeling sluggish AND give you the feeling of a ‘free ticket’ to overindulge and continue the “fest” long after you’ve returned home.

For many, that bit of indulgence can turn into a feeling of entitlement and a fear of losing control (that the indulging will snowball into days or weeks…)

So it can be a challenge to maintain a consistent eating schedule, not to mention the airline food, eating out at restaurants, and not having your normal go-to healthy foods around.

Which for dieters, emotional eaters, or even those maintaining their weight — can be a dietary minefield.

As someone who travels fairly frequently (for both personal and business assignments), I’ve put together some of my tried-and-true tips to help YOU:

1)  Go Food Shopping.  If you have a fridge in your hotel room, stock up on a few healthy snacks from a local supermarket.  I’ll make a grocery list that includes plain yogurt (personally I don’t like the ‘fruit’ kind….oftentimes they have way too much sugar), healthy crackers and all-natural peanut butter, and some fruit.  That way I’m sure to having something good for me around to help keep my energy up.

2)  Pack Snacks.  I ALWAYS have snacks with me when I travel.  And if I’m traveling domestically, I’ll even pack some apples or other fruit, almonds, or homemade trail-mix in my carry-on bag.  I’ll bring enough not only for the flight, but also to keep in my hotel room just in case I can’t get to a supermarket.

3)  Eat Breakfast.  It can be too easy to skip breakfast when traveling.  But eating in the morning not only kick-starts your metabolism, it also helps prevent you from overeating later.  If possible, keep the muffins, donuts, and pastries to a minimum. My go-to breakfast when traveling is eggs or omelet with whole wheat toast and fruit on the side.  It keeps me full, energized, and makes it easier to not have to rely on a caffeine fix.

4)  Order It Your Way.  When eating at restaurants, don’t be afraid to ask is they can accommodate your needs.  If the main meal doesn’t come with vegetables, ask if they can replace the (often) carbohydrate side dish with vegetables.  I always try to fit in some vegetables when I can.  Helps eliminate that heavy and bloating feeling when I eat too many carbs.

5)  Get in some exercise.  If the hotel you’re staying at has a fitness center, use it.  When I’m traveling, getting in a bit of exercise helps me feel better.  Even if it’s just walking on the treadmill (or outside!) for 30 minutes one day.  I won’t necessarily do my normal routine of cardio and weights, but I find getting some cardio lifts my spirits and helps me feel light…not to mention helps keep stress at bay.  And I don’t fret that I’m not getting my usual exercise.  Even a little is better than nothing.

6)  Lighten Up!  Realize that it’s okay to go-off your normal routine.  And if you do end up eating more than normal, or some ‘guilty’ foods — that’s okay!  One or two days won’t ruin your waistline.  Go ahead and have the dessert, maybe get that hamburger you’ve been craving.  But keep it in balance and put it into perspective.

It’s better to enjoy your time traveling (whether it be for work or for pleasure) than worrying about calories and food the whole time.  Get the most out of your trip — connecting with others, seeing, experiencing or learning something new, or spending time with loved ones.  THAT she be the focus, not what’s on your plate.

For me, these tips are more about keeping your energy up, feeling good, and having some strategies in place being away from my normal routine.  It’s not about how many calories did I eat? or how can I exercise off that burger?

Instead, it’s about coming of a place of peace and understanding that food doesn’t control you.  It is a means of nourishment, pleasure and gives your body energy.  And about doing the best you can.  No day, week, month or year is perfect.  So don’t let a trip or weekend to see your family spoil the true pleasure in your life.

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Why Waiting to be Skinny Could be Hazardous to Your Health


Over the past couple of years I’ve had the opportunity to talk to women around the country, and around the world.  I’ve spoken to women in living rooms, at conferences, at talks I give and workshops I hold.  I’ll even add that I’ve “spoken” to women on social networking sites like Twitter and Facebook.  and of course, working with my clients — both in person and over the phone — I’ve spoken to hundreds, if not thousands, of women.

And one thing I see over and over again are women putting their life on hold – waiting until they hit some magic number (whether it be a pants size or the bathroom scale) to find happiness.

Whether a woman is from the Birmingham Alabama or Birmingham in the U.K., San Jose California or San Jose in Costa Rica….there is a mindset that is holding many of us back from living a more meaningful life.  Too many women are putting their life on hold until they hit that magic number to start living, and unfortunately they miss out on a lot of while waiting for their lives to begin.  We use the “if only” scenario:

“If only I could lose 20 pounds…”

“If only I could fit into my skinny jeans…”

“If only I were thinner, taller, better looking…”

“If only I could resist that fattening dessert….”

If only….

The issue is not on your plate.  And the solution is not in some diet.  It’s about looking at and and re-evaluating your entire life, not just your weight.

Do We Really Have it All?

All too often I meet women who have it all:  a great career, a loving husband, wonderful children, a house, and a great personality.  Yet they tell me they DON’T remember many times in their life because they were too busy dieting, hating their body, and waiting for that magic number to appear on the scale.

Are you waiting to be skinnier to really begin living YOUR life? A lot of us are.  And I used to be there. And I can tell you this obsession with our pants size and the scale is a waste of time.

When you find peace with food, your body, and stop the obsession – THAT’S when the weight starts to come off, and for good.  That’s when the yo-yo dieting finally ends and we get to the weight we’d like to be.

We all know how to lose weight, and serial dieters are often good at that.  But they have a difficult time keeping it off.  Those 5, 10, then 50 pounds creep back on. But to truly taste and enjoy food, eat from a place of pleasure (and not gluttony or even denial); to come from a place of trusting yourself and your body – that is a LIFE.  And that is when you lose the weight.

But to get there – to a place where you realize you are not flawed, you are not broken, and you are not a bad person – you need to look deeper into why food and/or hating your body takes the place of fulfillment in your life.

Your purpose in life has never been to lose the same 10, 20 or 50 pounds over and over again.  With the right tools you can stop your struggle with food, end the war with your body, and find out what you’re really hungry for (hint:  it’s probably not food) and you’ll be on a path to joy, peace, and a sense of self that no diet plan or low-fat food can give you.

So find your way back to your whole self, not just the one who steps on a scale.

But do get healthy, do get back to a weight where you can feel sexy, confident, and full of energy.   But do it in a way that supports you, not denies you the way constant dieting does.

And getting to this place of peace cannot always be done alone.  Whether it’s from a support group, friends, a therapist, or a weight-loss and body image coach, it’s empowering to know you’re not in this alone.  Getting support to help you understand your habits, your way of looking at food, your body, and your life are important.

Remember, your life is worth more than the number of calories you consume during the day, or the number of reps you do at the gym.  You should design the life you desire.  And before doing that, you have to look at what’s been holding you back.

And then you will taste something amazing, bursting with flavor and aroma.  Something that food or a diet could never replace – the taste of life.

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Is Snacking Really a Diet Trap?

I’ve been spending a few weeks visiting my brother outside of Dallas, Texas and to my surprise, my pants are feeling a bit looser (yay!).  But when I say it’s a surprise, I really mean it.

I’m one of those people that need to ‘schedule’ my eating, or I’ll get ravenous.  Just ask anyone…when I’m hungry watch out!  My blood sugar drops and I get a bit (or a lot) cranky.  So I always have a snack with me, especially when I know I’m going to be out all day and may not be able to eat at my regularly scheduled time.

So being away from home, my schedule is totally off, including my eating times.  I like to eat three square-meals a day.  I’m not a big fan of snacking, but I do so when I feel my tummy getting hungry so I’ll grab something (preferably healthy & with some protein) to hold me over (so I don’t pig out when dinner time rolls around!).

And though I’ve eaten more than my far share of beef these last few weeks (hey, I’m in Texas….they know their beef!), not to mention the hamburgers, chicken tortilla’s, and frozen chocolate bars, my stomach feels lighter.

So what the heck is going on?

I know for a lot of my clients, they’ve heard over and over again that snacking is good for you.  And sure, snacking CAN be a good thing.  But all too often, these ‘snacks’ become as big as regular meals.  And I find too many people eat all day long (but in their head they’re just ‘snacking.’)

We’ve literally become trained to snack all the time.  And we can eat, or drink, almost anywhere, any time of day, and purchase food (even prepared foods) everywhere we turn.

We’ve also become trained NOT to feel our hunger.  We’ve been told over and over again by experts, the media, and food company that we need to snack.

Back to my story — I’ve realized that although I’ve been eating a bit more ‘forbidden’ foods these last few weeks.  I have NOT been snacking.   AND…I’ve been eating when I’m hungry, and yes, stopping when I’m full.  When my body says, “Okay Dinneen, it’s time to fill me up with some food so I can have energy and feel better,” I sit down and eat a real meal.  I’m not picking all day at food.   I’ve been listening, really listening, to my hunger signals.

Here are some other tidbits I’ve noticed over the last few weeks that will help YOU not to fall into the snack-trap that can unknowingly pack on some unwanted extra pounds:

1)  Eat Enough Protein.  After just a few weeks working with my clients, I often find they’re not eating enough.  Yup, that’s right….they’re not eating enough.  When trying to lose weight, this can surprisingly be an issue.   Sure it’s great to cut-down on the chips, soda, ice cream, and apple pie a la mode when trying to shed some pounds.  But what dieters do is fill up mostly on veggies, fruits, and so-called ‘diet’ foods.  Now at face value that might seem okay.

But what often happens is you’re eating too many fruits & vegetables, and not enough protein….and not leaving room for some special treats from time to time.  So our bodies use up the fruits and veggies pretty quickly — especially as we often kick our exercise up-a-notch when losing weight — and our bodies get depleted.  We also need to remember to get enough protein.  Sure, healthy protein is better, but even eating beef can really do your body good.  I’ve been getting my fair share of protein lately, but squaring it off with enough vegetables, fruits and whole grains.

Now before you freak out, I’m not advocating the Atkins diet — but I do often find that we (especially Americans) eat too little protein, or not the right kind.  So be sure you’re meals have a good portion of healthy protein.

And for you vegetarians, vegans, or raw foodies out there — yes, eating lots of fruits and vegetables IS a good thing.  But we also need to be sure to get enough protein, even if it’s in the form of whole grains, beans, legumes, nuts, seeds or other non-meat sources.

2)  Filler Up by eating Three Square Meals.  Don’t go skipping breakfast or not eating lunch simply because you want to save calories.  Yes, you do need to make sure you’re not eating too many calories, but don’t get caught in the feast or famine thinking.

In addition, it’s been recently shown that trying to spread out your calories for the day — rather than sitting down to regular meals — may throw off your body’s internal clock.  Which just makes it more difficult for your body to recognize hunger and satiety cues — to the point that you no longer ‘feel’ or understand what it’s like to be hungry, but you also never feel quite full. (More on that on tip #4).

3)  Have a Purpose.  aka, keep busy.  Don’t you ever notice when you’re bored, or not really enjoying what you’re doing, all you want to do is eat?  Sure, you might think you’re hungry, but many times it’s just because the food ‘is there’ or we’re bored…so we eat.  While I’ve been in Texas I’ve had a purpose: helping take care of my brother.  This has included doing errands, driving him to doctor appointments, physical therapy, or to the supermarket.  I’ve been busy.  But not just busy as in ‘things to take up my time’…I’ve been busy doing things that make me feel useful, and give me a sense of purpose.

Ever notice when you’re really involved in a project that you really enjoy, time just goes by and look at the clock and realize you haven’t eaten in hours?  Or you’ve missed lunch?  (okay, maybe that doesn’t happen to you…).  This is often because we eat when we’re not really physically hungry.  But when you’re involved in something you really like, you don’t have time to get bored.

You stop and realize your stomach is growling or you’re body needs some food for energy.  It’s kind of a way of ‘training’ your body to speak for you….and not your mind.  Because all too often we think we’re hungry and getting signals from our body, when in reality it’s our mind telling us it’s hungry .  Our mind isn’t hungry, it’s that we’re bored, angry, frustrated, or just looking for something to keep it busy.

Which brings me to…

4)  Listen to your BODY.  Do you find yourself eating, simply because the clock says 12 noon, or it’s time for your favorite tv show, or because the kids are home from school so ‘it’s time to eat’?  Now there’s nothing wrong with keeping a regular eating schedule.  I do.  But on days when I just don’t feel hungry at 12 noon, I stop and ask myself “am I really hungry?”, and think about my plans for the next few hours.  If I’m not hungry, and have the time to eat 30 minutes or an hour later, I’ll wait.  However, if I’m at my office and know in an hour I have a call with a client, I’ll have some lunch even if I’m not quite fully hungry.  But I’ll eat accordingly.  I’ll eat just enough to fill me up and keep my body running, and if I need a snack later on I’ll grab one.  But I don’t kid myself that my ‘snack’ is a meal replacement.  It’s not.  It’s merely something small to keep my energy levels up.

5)  Grazing is for animals.  Okay, now there’s nothing wrong with grazing.  But grazing can turn into ‘eating a whole meal’ without even realizing it.

So if you DO snack, yes, it’s okay.  But sit down at a table, even use a small plate, and pay attention to what you’re eating so you’re focused on the food.  Don’t go grab a granola bar and eat it while walking around the house or sitting at your office desk.  Okay, I realize that’s not always feasible.  But back in the day when I worked in the corporate world, when I did have a snack I would sit at my desk, away from my computer, and take 5 minutes to sit and focus on my food.  Even if it’s just an apple.  But really paying attention to that apple (instead of reading emails) can make a big difference.

And like I mentioned earlier, it has been suggested that eating regular meals is better than grazing all day long.  And if you think about many other cultures where the obesity rate is lower than here in the U.S., oftentimes they don’t snack.  Or they only snack from time to time.  It’s not a daily thing.

6)  It’s OKAY to feel hunger.  We’re often afraid to get hungry, thinking that if we do we’ll devour the whole plate of chocolate chip cookies.  But that’s not the case.  Unless you allow yourself to get too hungry or ravenous, those are the times when you want to eat everything in site.  But having some hunger is a good thing.  Yes, it’s a good thing.  It’s your body’s internal cue of when it’s time to eat.   So don’t fear hunger — honor it.  Sure, it can take some time to realize the point when hunger turns to ravenousness, but over time you’ll start to interpret the signals better.  But in order to do that, you need to FEEL hunger.

Now this doesn’t mean you need to be really hungry every time you eat, whether it be a meal or a snack, but give your body enough time to get hungry so you can know what it feels like.   I’ve had many clients admit to me that they’ve never  felt hungry.  They’re so afraid of hunger that they’re constantly eating and snacking all day to ward it off.  So learn to listen to your hunger, honor it, and you’ll learn how to read it’s signals better and better.

So though snacking can be a good thing, just be aware that’s it’s something to hold you over until your next meal.  Eat three square meals a day, eat balanced meals, get enough exercise, have a sense of purpose in life, listen to your body — the ingredients to ANY happy life, whether you want to lose weight or not — and you’ll feel better, look better, and wonder why you didn’t do this all along.

So what are you’re thoughts on Snacking?  Do you do it regularly, sometimes, or never at all?  Do you feel it helps you keep your weight in-check, or do you think it could be a trap allowing you to eat too much and not really feel your hunger signals?

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The Latest Diet Victim

As I started my week on Monday morning, I sat down with my coffee (yes, cream and sugar) and put on the television to catch up on some news.  So I tuned into Good Morning America.  Now I do realize these morning shows don’t really give us much ‘news’, but as I have my coffee in the morning I like to catch the weather forcast and there’s not much else on besides these morning shows.

But they often (excuse my French)…..piss me off.

Why?

Because it seems at least once a week (actually, it’s usually a few times a week) they have a story about weight-loss.  And the “right” foods to eat.  And the right diet.  And how to be slim and happy.  Yadda, yadda, yadda…

“Lose 10 pounds by eating superfoods!” “Sugar is bad (no wait, good) for your heart!” “Lose belly fat for good!”  ”How to walk off the weight!”  ”Celebrity diet secrets!” they scream.  It’s like I’m watching the cover of the latest diet magazine.

Anyway, on Monday they had Jason Alexander (aka George Constanza on “Seinfeld”) who is the new Jenny Craig spokesperson.  (The last company he was a spokesperson for was KFC.  Go figure).  Now, nothing against Jason, he was funny as hell on Seinfeld.  But what he was saying about his weight-loss just irked me.

Why?

Because he talked about how he was “fat” and how his eating had “gotten out of control the last 20 years.”  Now I wouldn’t really consider him fat — sure, he could have lost a few pounds but he didn’t seem so overweight that it was a health issue.  But I get it.  He wanted to look and be slimmer.  I get it.

But it seems (actually, it’s clear) that Jenny Craig is now going after the male population.  Now they too have to be slimmer, sexier, and wear a smaller pants size to be a better person.  There is “Jenny Craig for Men.”   Now men are the target of the diet industry, which I guess really shouldn’t come as a shocker.

But then Jason went on to say how it’s all about “calories in vs. calories out.”  Which is something we hear all of the time.  But I gotta tell you… weight loss is NOT just about that.  Because 1000 calories of fruits and vegetables does NOT equal 1000 of burgers and fries.  And just eating the “right” amount of calories and burning off the “right” amount of calories does not equal a good diet.

He then went on to talk about how he had “no willpower” and “if it (the diet) is hard, I’m not a good candidate.”   “If this was really difficult, I’d be a dismal failure,” he continued.  Then he went on to say — which is what really irked me — that they, Jenny Craig “do all the work for you.”

So basically, what he was saying was — I don’t want to work for it, I don’t want to think about it, just give me what I need to eat and I’ll be thin.” Which I guess it what a lot of people want — fast, easy, quick, no-brainer.

Here’s the problem: losing weight shouldn’t be, and isn’t, about willpower, doing the ‘right’ things, and it’s definitely not about someone giving you a meal to microwave (which Jenny Craig does) and telling you to eat it.  Jenny Craig’s system is set up that you buy and eat their prepared foods.  Sure, they say you also need to incorporate some healthy fruits and vegetables….hello?  Not rocket-science.  But if you don’t even have to think about what the heck you’re eating, how are you going to keep the weight off?

On top of it, but if Jason (and everyone else wanting to lose weight) doesn’t look into the deeper reasons as to WHY you overeat, you’ll never keep the weight off.  You’ll be constantly struggling with food.  Even if you don’t think it’s a struggle, let me tell you it will be.

Back to his comment that “they” do all of the work for you.  If you really want to lose weight — I mean REALLY — then YOU have to do the work.  And I’m not just talking about the cooking, eating right, and exercising.  I’m talking about the inner work. Because the majority of people who are overweight didn’t get there simply because they ate the wrong foods, or didn’t exercise, or because they ‘love’ food.

It’s because they weren’t willing to look deeper into themselves to get to the root of the issue. (read that again).

And no, it’s not about going back to your childhood and solving your ‘problems’….it’s about becoming real with who you are, what you want out of life, and what’s going on inside.  Once you understand why you eat, what you’re really hungry for, how to love yourself (and your body), and to feel true fulfillment in life you won’t need the false security that food provides.

Even Valerie Bertinelli, the female spokesperson for Jenny Craig, talked about in her second book Losing It, that “dieting fixes one problem, but to maintain that weight loss, you have to work on everything else.”   Let’s hope Jason Alexander soon realizes the same.

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What the Diet Industry Doesn’t Want You to Know

I’ve seen too many women spend years dieting, spending hundreds (more like thousands) of dollars on weight-loss programs and diets.  And having self-esteem issues because they just ‘can’t follow the diet.’

Well, you might not like hearing this, but…

The multibillion dollar diet industry thrives on your failure.   They need you to keep coming back to them for business.  The diet and weight-loss industry is built on repeat business.  It would be a very short-lived business if we all succeeded the first time.

And let’s face it, if they could really show you how to lose weight AND keep it off — you wouldn’t have to keep purchasing their products, attend their meetings, and buying their special foods.

And some of the “big name” diet and weight-loss organizations are owned by food companies ….(makes you think, huh?).

Americans alone spend over $55 billion (yup, Billion!) dollars a YEAR on weight-loss products.  And as a nation we keep getting heavier and heavier.  I think the ‘industry’ is doing something right — to put money in their pocket.

And let’s face it — diets don’t work.  There are different statistics out there, some even saying that 95% of all people on a diet gain the weight back within a few years.  I can tell you from my own personal experience this has been true for me.

In addition, diets do NOT teach you how to trust yourself.  The basic message of a diet is:  if you trusted yourself, you would start eating at one end of your kitchen and chew all the way across the U.S.  (okay, I’m exaggerating, but you get the idea).  But basically they tell you that if you trusted yourself  you’d never stop eating.  So, you need to trust them and their ‘rules.’  And do what they say, as opposed to learning to listen to yourself.

Another thing that is that weight-loss should not be the goal.  It should be the by-product of learning how to listen to your body for when it’s hungry, what is needs, and what it wants.  In other words –a healthy relationship with food, weight and your body.   Because when you lose weight….you don’t lose the reasons WHY you turned to food in the first place.

Let me repeat that:  when you lose the weight, you don’t lose the reasons why you turned to food in the first place.

For these reasons, and many others, is why I started Eat Without Guilt in the first place.  I struggled for so long, yo-yo dieting, feeling like a failure, that I had no willpower, that I just couldn’t follow the “rules”, and that if I could ONLY just lose weight I would be happy, joyful, peaceful and content.  Losing weight would make me not only happier, but a better person.  Boy was I wrong.

I want to help as many people as I can break free of the diet and overeating cycle and live a healthier, more satisfying life.  And to set you free so you can continue it on your own.  And to learn how to support YOURSELF.

And that’s just one of the reasons why I created an Intuitive Eating Success Class – to set you free and give you the tools to continue it on your own…for life.  Without having to pay me over and over again.  I’d love nothing more to have you in my course, and then see you continue on your own without my help (I’m not kidding!).

You see (especially women) we are so good at supporting everyone around us that we tend to put ourselves at the bottom of the list. We are constantly under pressure, overwhelmed and have many demands at both home and at work. We expect ourselves to be superwomen….and everyone else does too.  So for many, this translates into having an unhealthy relationship with food. The only way we know to give ourselves a break or a ‘treat’ is to eat something.

I want women (and men) to get back on the path to returning to your own natural instinct to eat when you are hungry and stop when you feel comfortably full or satisfied. So you never have to spend a dime on weight loss products again.  Ever.

My intuitive eating course, and my eat without guilt philosophy, is not a diet or plan.  Instead, it’s about  regaining the pleasure and enjoyment of eating without guilt and punishment.  About learning how to listen to yourself and your body.  How to discover if you’re really hungry, what you’re hungry for, and to bring complete awareness to what you are eating.  How to begin creating lasting peace with food.

About how to uncover your automatic response to emotions – and how to steer it away from food (because so many of us turn to food for emotional reasons, not physical ones.  Or we’ve been dieting or overeating for so many years that we no longer ‘know’ the difference between to two).

It’s about helping you respect your body and do what’s right for YOU (not what the newest ”study” or weight-loss guru says).

That’s what I’m all about.  Helping people get back to learning how to trust themselves again. And be really comfortable around food.  And not dieting and feeding the diet industry.  But to learn how to feed ourselves, our body and soul, and treating ourselves with kindness….NOW, not when we lose the ‘weight.’

So, what are your thoughts?  Do you agree, do you think I’m being too negative (about the diet industry)?  What has been your experience with diets?  I’d love to hear your thoughts — and yes, even if you don’t agree with what I say.  That’s the main reason for this post!  To start a discussion…

(for information about the upcoming Intuitive Eating Success class, just click here)

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