The other evening I went out to dinner with my husband when something really struck me that I wanted to share with you…
I looked over at the next table and saw a young girl who had a piece of pizza on the plate in front of her. I saw the mother trying to coax her to eat, but the girl was just too interested in looking around, saying hi to other people in the restaurant, and she even got up to check out flowers in the restaurant.
Then she went back to her seat, started talking to her brother, and then finally (after about 5 minutes) she took her first bite of pizza.
And then it hit me — that’s what Intuitive Eating (also called mindful eating) is all about. About getting back to that place where *life* is more interesting and fulfilling that food isn’t so important anymore.
Now don’t get me wrong, I love food and I really enjoy eating. And when I sit down to eat most of the time I’m hungry.
But in our culture, we are so attuned to food being used as a solution to our issues, to food being used as a recreation, to food being used as a social tool, that we have seemingly forgotten that foods primary purpose –is to nourish our bodies. AND that eating can be (and should be!) physically pleasurable.
But for so many, food often plays other roles and seems to have taken precedence over many other things in our life.
But food shouldn’t be a substitute for pleasure in life.…it should be a part of it. And just like this young girl at the Italian restaurant — she was so interested in other things that the food was no longer so important.
You see, intuitive or mindful eating gets you back in touch with your actual needs, and gives us permission to once again experience the pure pleasure of eating. It’s a common sense, hunger-based approach to eating, where you are encouraged (and learn HOW) to eat when and only when your body tells you it is hungry. But for many of us, dieting has made a sort of ‘disconnect’ in those signals.
When someone is disconnected to her internal cues of hunger or fullness, it is easier to be trigged by external triggers to eat — such as emotions, stress, being tired, because the clocks says it’s 12 noon, opportunity, and/or perceived ‘rules’ of eating.
If someone has rigid rules for so-called healthy eating, she is more likely to succumb to overeating, as a consequence of breaking the well-meaning rules.
With intuitive eating, instead of focusing on dieting, you’ll to focus your attention to what you love. Because if you love your LIFE, you’ll want to take care of your body.
So aim to be like the girl I saw in the restaurant — where food is a part of life and life’s pleasure, but it doesn’t control you or your day. No matter what your way of eating, you can apply an intuitive approach to it–it’s about a way of living and relating to food, not about a food plan.
And for those of you who would like to learn further, and get back to that place where food is just food, where you don’t eat with your emotions but instead with your stomach and inner guidance — I have a new class that will get you there. It’s an 8-week course that will change the way you think about food, help you break free of the dieting and overeating cycle, and take back control of your weight and your life. And it’s starting at the end of this month.
All the details are here, if you want check it out:
http://www.IntuitiveEatingSuccess.com
The course is definitely not a diet or eating plan, but instead a way of experiencing life which allows you to be present and aware so that you are able to listen to your body and choose food based on nourishment and self-care.
I’m so passionate about this and feel the message is an important one for any woman who wants to handle her relationship with food, her weight, and her life in a healthy way, and to become truly whole. If that is you, you will not be disappointed, I promise.







Dinneen Diette is a certified health coach, intuitive eating counselor and healthy lifestyle expert. After overcoming her own personal struggles with food and weight, she has helped thousands of women around the globe become normal eaters and shed excess weight without dieting, guilt or giving up chocolate.
By Debbie Phillips March 23, 2010 - 9:32 pm
Thank you, Dinneen for your continuing inspiration. I get something useful each and every column!
By Foodie McBody March 23, 2010 - 10:41 pm
I agree that it is better to focus on LIVING and not be obsessed with food, but at the same time, don’t you think it’s good to focus on our food when we’re eating our food? And enjoying every bite? It sounded like this girl was too distracted to really ENJOY her pizza. It’s a balance, isn’t it…
.-= Foodie McBody´s last blog ..Time Squeeze =-.
By Deb (SmoothieGirlEatsToo) March 24, 2010 - 10:02 am
Great reminder and so true. When we were recently in Mexico, I was announcing that I was *ahem* about to “eat my arm” and that we had to go out and eat asap. Just then I got some random inspiration for a blog post and wanted to get it up right away as I’m only posting a couple of times a week these days. Nearly an hour went by and all of a sudden I realized that I forgot all about eating my arm! Of course when we got to the restaurant I was starved, but you are right- when life distracts you (in a good way) it is intuitive eating at work. Thanks Dinneen!
.-= Deb (SmoothieGirlEatsToo)´s last blog ..A Tu Salud! Viva Mexico! Healthy Choices in Mexico. =-.
By Runeatrepeat March 24, 2010 - 12:44 pm
Love this story. It really puts food and life in perspective
Thank you.
By Lisa Ingemi March 24, 2010 - 5:50 pm
What good points you make about eating. I for one, eat like it’s my last meal!!
We need to get up talk to friends and just relax.
Also, we don’t need to make food quite as important as we do.
How often do we begin thinking what we want for dinner and it’s still morning??
Thanks Dinneen for the inspiration,
Lisa
By will0wisp March 31, 2010 - 4:31 pm
I’m a newcomer to this blog, so take this with a grain of salt, but when I read your description of the girl with her pizza, I immediately assumed she was distracting her mother from the fact that she hadn’t eaten by moving around and talking with her family. To me, personally, that behavior sounds more like a warning sign of a potential eating disorder than an example of intuitive eating…
By Larry April 26, 2010 - 3:04 am
I’m a newcomer to this blog, so take this with a grain of salt, but when I read your description of the girl with her pizza, I immediately assumed she was distracting her mother from the fact that she hadn’t eaten by moving around and talking with her family. To me, personally, that behavior sounds more like a warning sign of a potential eating disorder than an example of intuitive eating…
By William April 27, 2010 - 1:11 am
Thank you, Dinneen for your continuing inspiration. I get something useful each and every column!