When Food Becomes the Enemy

Note:  This article I originally wrote  for the blog of Miz Fit Online as a guest post last year (you can read the original post here).  But it’s message and usefulness has not changed, so I wanted to share it with you this week.  -Dinneen

As a weight loss coach and mentor, I help many women lose weight, look better AND feel better, and I’m constantly meeting women who struggle with food and their weight.  And I get it, as I’ve been there myself.

For years I struggled to lose weight, and even when I was finally  “thin,” I spent many more years eating low-fat, low-calorie, and low-tasting foods.  Food and eating was not an enjoyment for me.  Any food I ate that was remotely decadent or a “bad” food, left me feeling guilty and eventually lead me to overeat.  And so started a vicious cycle of dieting, losing weight, putting it back on, dieting again, and on and on.

What I ate either helped me lose weight, or gain weight, or so I thought.  It wasn’t until a trip to Italy, and then a few years later living & working in France, did I learn that I could enjoy foods without guilt, lose weight and stay slim.

My world was literally turned upside down.   And so was my life.

And so began a journey of education, self-awareness, and self-growth that led me to the extraordinary life I live today.  I can eat the foods I love, and still stay healthy, and yes, slim.

As a weight-loss coach and mentor I help women and men lose weight, get healthy, and feel good about themselves.  And part of that is helping them with their relationship with food.

You see, it wasn’t’ until I changed my relationship with food was I able to lose weight and keep if off, and without deprivation.  Even Oprah Winfrey has had ups & downs with her weight and, in my opinion, she will not keep it off until she has a healthy relationship with food. (for more about my thoughts about Oprah and her weight, visit my blog post from last year).

In my business I’ve come across women (and young girls) who suffer from an eating disorder.  Eating disorders arise from a variety of physical, emotional, and social issues, all of which need to be addressed for effective prevention and treatment.

This week is the National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.  If you suspect, or know, someone suffering from the disease please visit the website of the National Eating Disorders Association.  There you will find an abundance of information and resources to help support those affected by eating disorders.  It is there to help a friend, family member, colleague, or loved one get help.

In the United States alone, as many as 10 million females and 1 million males suffer from an eating disorder, and approximate 15 million more are suffering with a binge eating disorder.*  More people die every year from an eating disorder than any other mental illness.  Yes, it’s that bad and that prevalent.

Also, statistics say that more than one in three ‘normal’ dieters progress to pathological dieting (that is, it becomes a very unhealthy obsession with food & weight).

So help spread the word. I see too many women, of all ages, obsessed with their weight and their bodies – and they look fine!   In my mission to help women lose weight and be HEALTHY, it is also my mission help women feel good in their body, no matter what the scale says.  Now that is something to be proud of.  I sure am.

So check out the National Eating Disorders Association, and help someone who needs it.

* 2010 figures, source:  National Eating Disorders Association

Do You Know How to Listen to Your Hunger?

You’ve probably heard over and over again “eat when you are hungry and stop when you are full.”

Good advice, but often people tell me that they don’t even know what hungry feels like.  They either feel hungry all to time, or can’t decipher if their “hunger” is true hunger or emotional hunger.  Many people on their weight-loss journey have lost their ability to even know what real (ie biological) hunger feels like.

And it’s more common than you think.

The Clock Strikes 12

For some people it’s simply because they’ve never allowed themselves to be hungry.  They eat all the time.  Or they eat simply because it’s meal-time.  The clock say’s 12 noon so they just eat.  They’re not really hungry, but they’ve been eating at this time for so long they actually think they’re hungry.  But their body isn’t giving them the signals.  They have just been on autopilot for so long, that they believe they are hungry but in reality their body is not.

Food, Food Everywhere

We live in a society today where food is around all of the time.  Any time of day, any day of the week, you can easily get food.  So we can eat at all hours of the day.  And there’s no longer eating ‘hours’ for breakfast, lunch and dinner.  It is completely acceptable to “eat” at all hours of the day.

This was something different I experienced living in France.  If I wanted to eat lunch, whether it be in my office at work, or on the weekends while strolling around town – cafeteria’s, restaurants, canteens, etc where only open during lunch hours.  And I would be hard pressed to find a vending machine anywhere.

Other Voices

There are other ‘voices’ of hunger like eating to fill emotions.  And emotional eating is one of the top reasons diets fail.  But when you divert your attention from whatever is causing you angst (like a bad day at the office) by eating, you’re often just making the problem even worse.

And the food can act like a drug. Eating can take the edge off what ever is going on, similar to the way a drink does for alcoholics, but unfortunately this tactic is a temporary fix at best.  After you’re done eating, you still have to deal with the original problem.

Tuning In

But know that the first step to “finding your biological hunger” is to listen to it.

Now it sounds/feels different for different people.  Remember, we are all unique so just like eating patterns, biological hunger varies for everyone.

In the beginning, you might be able to recognize ravenous hunger (when you’re so hungry you could literally eat anything), but have difficulty recognizing gentle hunger pains.

So here are some tips to help you recognize when you are hungry:

-      mild (or loud!) rumbling in the stomach

-      light-headedness

-      headache

-      very low energy, feel a bit faint

-      uncomfortable stomach pain. It feels really empty

-      irritability

-      difficulty concentrating

Another tool to use is the Hunger Scale.  It’s a way to help you identify your hunger and get in touch you’re your body’s inner signals.

If you’re not familiar with the hunger scale, it a scale of 1 to 10.  With 1 being extreme hunger (you feel so hungry you could literally pass out) to 10 being beyond full (like after eating Thanksgiving Dinner). The neutral point is five.  At 5, your body has enough fuel to keep it going and you’re more or less satisfied.  You could eat a bit more, but physically your body is fine.

Every time you eat, check your hunger level.  Ideally, for you to be truly hungry, you should be at a 3 or 4.  If you’re 5 or above, you’re not biologically hungry.

So begin to really listen to your stomach, and not what the clock says, not what your ‘head’ is telling you, and not because you’re feeling some type of emotion.

It’s all a part of what’s called intuitive eating. Eating when you’re really hungry, stopping when you are full, and listening to your body.  If you can start listening to your true hunger signals and eat because you are physically hungry, then you are slowly on your way to honoring your hunger and

Part of eating intuitively is knowing what hunger feels like, honoring it, and giving it (and your body) the proper nutrition it needs.

Want to learn more about listening and honoring your hunger, how to stop when you’re full, and how the heck to really listen to your body and give it what it needs? Want more insight into knowing when you’re truly hungry? Then be sure to register for my upcoming f.r.e.e. call where I’ll be covering this and MORE.  Learn how YOU can listen to your hunger and your body and lose weight in the process.  Get all the details here.

5 Surprising Reasons You’re Not Losing Weight

Despite doing all of the right things — trading those potato chips for a wholesome snack, cooking and preparing your meals at home, and getting regular exercise — you’re still struggling to shed those last 10 or 20 pounds (or more!).  And it seems you’ve been at it for weeks (months, years!) and you can’t get those darn last pounds off.

Don’t  just assume you can’t reach your goal — you can!  Of course, you do need to make sure your weight-loss goal is a realistic one, but all too often I find that even “healthy” habits can get in the way of the scale moving in the right direction.

Okay, you think I’ve lost it.  You’re thinking, “How can healthy behaviors be getting in my way?”  Well oftentimes just some small adjustments can make big payoffs.  Here are some surprising reasons why you’re not losing the weight and how to switch up your strategy to get that scale moving down a notch:

1)  You’re loading up on whole grains.  You’ve cleared your pantry of snacks made with white flour and replaced them with heart-healthy whole-grain versions.  But many of these snacks can be high in sugar, fat and sodium…not to mention calories.

I recently was at a supermarket where you can sample some of the products, and I saw they had a “healthy, whole-grain, organic” granola bar.  I’m always looking to try something new, so I took a small piece.  Within a few seconds the sugar content was just too overwhelming for me.  I looked at the package — for 1 serving (one bar at 35 grams) it had 13 grams of sugar!  I was thinking, “I’d rather just have a cookie!” and it was a quick reminder why I don’t often eat “packaged” snacks (if I have a cookie, 8o% of the time I bake them myself).   And studies have shown that those who eat the least amount of processed whole-grain foods (like snack foods and crackers) enjoy the biggest weight-control benefits.

So even if that packaged food is “whole grain” or has some other health-claim on it (and beware of those claims….) remember it is still packaged food.   Aim to eat things like brown and wild rice, bulgur, quinoa, spelt and oatmeal instead.  And try to keep the majority of your whole grains as close to “whole” as possible — meaning less processed.  A whole food (ie, real food) is much better for you than anything out of a package.

2)  You allow yourself a “cheat day”…or two.  Being one of my readers, and I’m sure from your own personal experience, you know that denying yourself all treats when trying to lose or maintain weight can set you up for a binge.  So your solution?  For being “good” during the week you allow yourself to splurge on weekends.  Now I’m not against having a cheat day here and there, but for many this feast or famine mentality can backfire.  And too often one cheat day turns into two, then three, and before you know a week (or weekS!) have gone by and you’re right back at where you started.

So if you do have a cheat day — keep it to a DAY.  And don’t use it as a free-pass to go crazy.  Don’t start the day with donuts for breakfast, then McDonald’s for lunch, and a huge pizza for dinner.  Allow yourself some treats or your favorite foods — but keep it to a minimum.  One good strategy is instead of having a cheat day, allow yourself a FEW SMALL treats a few times during the week, rather than waiting until Friday night to splurge.

3)  You make your own meals. Okay, cooking your own meals is one of (if not THE) best strategies for weight-loss, maintaining weight-loss, and overall better health.  But if you’re not mindful, some bad habits in the kitchen can easily translate into extra pounds.  For example:  picking at food while you cook, using a heavy hand with sauces and dressings, taking second (or third) helpings, and nibbling leftovers as you’re clearing the table.  So preparing and cooking your own meals is great, just be aware of some of these little ‘habits’ than can backfire if you’re not careful.

So get out there and cook — but don’t nibble too much and be aware of the “mindless eating” that can go on.

4)  You’ve made and keeping to a routine.  Now having a routine is good.  But often when it comes to our food, even healthy food, we can get STUCK in a routine.  Meaning we’re eating the same things over and over again.  You have a handful of recipes and meals that you prepare week after week.  And even if they’re healthy, you’re body starts to adjust.

So you need to try some new things and shake it up a bit.  And your body needs to get some different nutrients, minerals and vitamins.  So if you always have a banana with your cereal for breakfast, switch it up and and have some fresh berries instead.  Or whip up a fruit smoothie.  Maybe you have a salad with grilled chicken a few times a week for lunch  Make things different (and get some great Omega 3’s) and have a piece of salmon instead.  If your normal veggie with dinner is either broccoli or carrots, try something new like a spinach, kale, swiss chard, squash, zucchini, okra, leeks….the list goes on.  The point is you may need to be eating some different things to introduce to your body, AND to keep your taste buds happy.

5)  You like your exercise program.  It’s BEST to enjoy the exercise you’re getting, but you’ve been doing the same exercise routine for months.  Maybe you walk for 30 minutes 5 days a week.  Walking is great, but at some point you’re going to need to step it up or at least switch it up to see more weight loss.

Replace one day of walking with swimming, tennis, dancing, a fitness class at a local gym, yoga, running, do an exercise video at home….you get the idea.  But you need to challenge your body and to work different muscles.  And just like with your food, it’s a great way to avoid boredom.  Even if you love walking, add in some different exercises from time to time (or for even better results, at least once a week).

At the gym I often find myself doing the same old things:  elliptical or treadmill, some free weights and crunches (for my abs).  But at least every other week I force myself to do something different.   Even if it’s using a weight machine instead of the free weights.  The next day I’ll feel it in muscles in areas of my body I didn’t know existed!  Or I’ll take a stretching or yoga class.  Just something to keep my body (and mind) challenged and working a different area.

So don’t let an exercise routine become too habitual.  Time to time shake things up a bit and try something new.  You just might be surprised how your body reacts (in a positive way!)

So if the scale hasn’t moved for a while, take a look at some areas that could use some tweaking.  Though your body does need time to adjust to any weight loss, it is normal for the scale to not move much during a week or two.  But if it’s been weeks or months — take a closer look at making some small changes even if you’re doing everything “right”.

Some small tweaking could be just what your body needs to move the scale in the right direction.  As that’s what losing weight, and keeping it off, is all about….continually learning, fine tuning, and being open to new things.  Come to think of it, that’s what LIFE is all about.  And making the best of your life is what should be your motivation.  So shake things up!

My Elimination Diet: Update & surprising “diet” results

Back at the end of November (November 30, to be exact), I decided to eliminate wheat from my diet.  Not to lose weight.  Not to fit into my skinny jeans.  And not as a “quick fix” to shed pounds before the Holidays.  Instead, it was to see if wheat was causing, or at least contributing to, the eczema that had been on my face for quite some time.

And after one week of being on the “diet” (no, not THAT kind of diet) I blogged about it. (To read more about my Elimination Diet and why “going on one” can be helpful at times, read my original blog post about it here.)

So though I LOVE wheat (you could say it’s ‘my crack’ as I could easily get addicted to it) I decided to eliminate it from my diet for at least a period of four weeks (but ended up doing it for five).  Then, as elimination diets go, one slowly adds back the food into their diet to see if it really is the “culprit.”

So here’s a lowdown of how it went for me, and what was in my thoughts during the process:

Week One: At first never thought I’d survive (there’s SO MUCH wheat in the American diet, even for someone like me who eats healthy).  First few days were difficult.  You know how you want what you can’t have?  But I knew, at least for a little while, it was only temporary.  But then by the end of the week I was feeling GREAT!  I was sleeping better, less bloated, had more energy, and my often ‘runny nose’ was going away.  Things were really looking up.  And my skin was getting better.

Week Two: Wow, can’t believe how good I feel.  And I’m not missing wheat so much anymore.  Thinking to myself, “why didn’t I do this before?”  Pants started to fit better, and though I did NOT weight myself — I’m guessing I lost a pound or two.  Okay, not much, but I don’t NEED to lose weight, and it wasn’t my goal.  Still sleeping good, got lots of energy, and overall feeling great.

Week Three: Oh my goodness, I miss pasta.  And bread.  And pizza.  And cereal.  And I feel like I’m running out of things to eat.  Energy just okay…..feel like I need to snack (on things like nuts) in order to keep my energy level up.  And missing my breakfast of cereal or whole wheat bread with all-natural peanut butter.  I eat breakfast and 2 hours later I’m hungry!!   Hmmm, what’s going on?  And, my eczema:  though skin looked like it was getting better the first week, is back to normal again. Eczema is still here.  Argh….probably why I feel like I want wheat.  But I keep on the road.

Week Four: (Christmas week)  Cravings (that were in my head in Week Three) are gone.  Don’t really care if I ever have pasta again (okay, who am I kidding??).  But seriously, I know that I can survive on eating a lot less wheat.  And went to Christmas Eve party where there was LOTS of wheat (think pasta, sandwiches on big thick rolls, cookies, more pasta….) I didn’t eat any…..and I was happy with it!  But was still able to eat and enjoy myself at the festivities.  Ditto for Christmas Day.  But my skin hasn’t really improved much.  Eczema is still there.  Same as before.  Runny nose coming back a bit (though less than it was before).

Week Five: (New Year’s week)  Still not seeing improvement in my skin or runny nose.  Though overall I’m feeling good, and my energy level is also pretty good, I’m getting a bit bored.  Yeah, my pants were feeling a bit better but now they’re back to where they were at Week One.  By not eating wheat I’m finding it “easy” to eat too many potatoes, and I even had potato chips at party two weeks ago.  And I’m finding I’m eating these foods (which I normally don’t each much, if at all) because I feel like “I can” and “I’m allowed too, ‘cuz hey, I’m not eating wheat!”  Which is exactly what happens to a lot of first-time vegetarians (but that’s a blog post for another time).

As the New Year rolls around, I decided to slowly let wheat back into my body.  Slowly.  And you know what?  Nothing changed.  Skin didn’t get worse, neither did runny nose.

So here’s my diagnosis (and I’m not a doctor….this is based on my personal and educated knowledge of both food and my body):  it’s not the wheat that is the culprit (or part of the culprit) to my eczema.

So what’s the reason for my increased energy, better sleeping, and what looked like better skin?  And what about my pants fitting slightly better???

Well, that’s simply because by not eating wheat, I WAS eating  TON of vegetables.  On a regular day/week I eat a lot more vegetables than the average American, and I already eat fairly healthy….but I was eating really, really well those first 2 weeks (until I started eating potato chips and other junk to replace the wheat).  I was the “Veggie Queen” and loving it.  And I was eating more fruits than normally this time of year (as it’s not really fruit season here in Boston, if you know what I mean).

So in order to “replace” the wheat, I was eating a lot more vegetables.  And yes, I was eating really healthy things like quinoa (a personal favorite) and lentils (lentils are awesome! I first “discovered” them when I lived in France and a great alternative to animal protein too), and beans.  Oh, and water too.  Don’t ask me why but I found myself drinking a lot of water (which is more difficult to do during the winter months)

So it WAN’T the fact that I “eliminated wheat” from my diet — but rather it WAS the fact that I was “adding in” a lot more really good things for me (that is, until I started eating potato chips….haven’t I mentioned that like 5 times already?)

So what am I doing now?  Well, to get rid of the eczema:  instead of the $50 bucks cream my dermatologist prescribed for me (which irritated my skin even more) —  I bought the generic $3 bucks over-the-counter Hydrocortisone which has done wonders.

And I’m now eating less wheat than before, and I’m feeling really good.  Though I do need to make it a conscious effort sometimes to think “lentils, beans, or quinoa” instead of wheat, I’m amazed how easy it is to still eat SOME wheat, but cut it down a lot (without missing it).  Oh, and now that I “can” eat wheat, I’m not eating things like potato chips to satisfy my “craving.”

AND, during those five weeks of my Elimination Diet I tried a lot of new recipes like lentil soup and different bean soups, chickpeas, edamame…I could go on & on….and ate a lot of variety especially in my veggies.  I had forgotten how much I loved things like butternut squash, sweet potatoes, parsnips, and other winter and root vegetables.  And it got me eating a lot of foods I liked, but hadn’t eaten for a while (like the lentils, chickpeas, edamame, parsnips).

So — moral of the story?  – even for ME, an expert in food & nutrition who has been able to keep her weight in a healthy range for many years and got over emotional eating…..time to time needs to “shake things up” a bit.  And that doesn’t mean you have to (or should) eliminate one food (or food group) from your diet.

The reason I did the elimination diet was to see if I had a SENSITIVITY or ALLERGY to a food — NOT to lose weight.

And I’m a better person for it as I’m eating a lot of foods I had forgotten about.  And it reminded me that nature has given us so many wonderful and good tasting foods that one doesn’t need to go looking for the perfect food or the fat-blasting superfood…..all foods that nature gave us are “super”.  We just need to eat a wide variety and keep (and maybe discover) new things all the time.

10 Simple Strategies to Eat and Shop Healthy (and Save!)

If you’re looking for ways to save a little while food shopping, but don’t want to sacrifice good nutrition, you just may be surprised how easy it is to do both.

Eating healthier foods can actually save you money.  When people eat more healthfully (especially if the family does it together), they not only reduce their waistlines but their grocery bills go down too.

When people decide to eat healthier and lose a few pounds they usually do (and should): reduce portion sizes, buy fewer high-calorie foods, and purchase less ‘extras’, foods that add lots of calories but have little nutritional value like chips, sodas, or donuts.  These changes add up to savings at the grocery store.

Though convenience and high-calorie foods may seem cheaper, but as they have little or no nutritional value people tend to eat a lot of them.  Their body is saying “hey, I’m not satisfied and need nutrients so please eat more.”  So people who eat these cheap foods are often those who are more likely to be overweight.

First, because they’re eating unhealthy foods.  And second, because their body is lacking proper nutrition so they often eat a lot of it.  It’s a double whammy.

Here are some tips to help shrink your grocery bill AND your waistline:

1)  Buy produce in season. You’ve probably heard (or read) me say this more this once. When food is in season it’s when they’re the most nutritious AND least expensive.  Foods in season at the grocery store are priced to sell.  For example, during the summer months corn on the cob is quite cheap.  But try buying it other times of the year and you can pay up to 10 times as much.  Grocery stores often have special deals or a “buy of the week” on fruits and vegetables that are in season, so be sure to check them out.

2)  Purchase “overripe” produce. The grocery store I shop at has an area in the back of the produce section with fruits and vegetables that are overripe and thus for sale at a huge cut in price.

Often what we American’s think of as overripe produce is actually still quite good.  A banana with a some brown on it is actually at its peak.  But for some reason, we have been conditioned to believe that all produce needs to be evenly shaped and be the perfect color.  So when a grocery store wants to get rids of the produce that isn’t “nice looking,” they mark it down a good deal.

The first thing I do when I food shop is go to this ‘price reduction’ section and often find a bundle of produce really, really cheap.  With those ‘brown-looking’ bananas, I’ll make homemade banana bread, banana-choc-chip cookies (which are very yummy), or freeze them for my smoothies.

3)  Buy frozen or canned. When food is NOT in season, you may find it cheaper frozen or canned.  You can purchase frozen berries in the winter at a fraction of the price you would for fresh.  Besides, who wants fresh berries in December when they are bland, have no flavor, been shipped hundreds of miles to get to the store, and have the high price tag?

Produce is typically frozen or canned at the peak of ripeness, when nutrients are plentiful (noticing a trend here…?)

4)  Bring your lunch to work. Spending about $2 a day on a homemade lunch verses $6 a day on the sandwich shop next to your office will save you about $80 a month and $960 a year.

Here in downtown Boston (and the suburbs) sandwiches and salads run at about $7-$10, and that’s without a drink!  And we know that even the bottled water runs $1-2 dollars each too.

When I worked in an office job I always brought my lunch.  I just brought leftovers from dinner the night before.  Not only did I eat healthier but I saved a LOT of money!

5)  Cook once, eat twice (or three times). You’ll save both money and TIME if you cook larger amounts and use the extra for leftovers.  Cook once for today’s meal, then put the leftovers in the fridge (for the next days lunch, just like tip #4), or you can even freeze a serving or two for when you need a quick meal but don’t have the time to cook.

6)  Make your own coffee or latte. Do you really need to spend $3-$4 per coffee each day?  If you purchase just one coffee a day (and I know many people that buy 2 or more) with the coffee or latte costing between $3-$4, making your own at home and bringing it with you to work could save you $90-$120 per month or $1080-$1400 per year!  That’s big bucks!

And if you want another coffee during the day, just buy a basic coffee machine for the office.  It will really save you money and you can then ‘splurge’ for the occasional latte once in a while.

7)  Shop at ethnic grocery stores. They’re showing up in more and more cities and neighborhoods and becoming easier to find. My husband and I shop at Middle Eastern, Asian, Indian and Mexican ethnic stores.  You can find spices, rice, olives, pastries (REAL pastries, not the sugar-loaded bland stuff at the supermarket) and even produce at a fraction of the cost you’ll find at regular grocery stores.  You just might be surprised at the values and quality you can find.

8)  Go to the store with a list, stick to it, and leave the kids at home. Okay, I know my husband is reading this right now and shaking his head.  I admit that when I go to the grocery store I often come home with more than I needed.  But it’s something I’m working on and my hubby can attest that I’m getting much better

So shop for only what you need and don’t spend forever in the store buying extra items.  You’ll not only spend more, but chances are many of those ‘additional’ items will just end up going bad and in the trash bin.

For moms:  leave the kids at home.  This way you’re not tempted to give in to pressure from a crying child saying “I want this!”

9)  Shop at the local farmer’s market. This time of year they’re available in many cities and sprouting up in suburbs too.  Chances are the produce is organic (read: healthier) and didn’t have to travel far to get to you, cutting down on costs.  You’ll also only find what’s in season (see tip #1) and get to know the people who cultivated the food.

10)  Save on protein foods. At least once a week try to substitute inexpensive, vegetarian sources sch as beans, legumes, tofu, and eggs instead of the more expensive meat, fish or poultry.  You could also try using a smaller portion of meat, fish or poultry and extending the dish with more whole grains, beans, eggs or vegetables.  It will save you money and is really much healthier.

If you remember just one thing, remember this:  ideal food is nutrient-dense (as in fruits, whole grains, and vegetables), not calorie-dense (convenience and junk food) and the least expensive may be fresh, frozen or canned.

Eating healthier can really save you decent money and just may help you lose a few pounds.

A Powerful First Step to Ending Comfort Eating

Should You Hold on to Your Skinny Jeans?

 

This past weekend I did some Spring cleaning, and part of that was going through my closet and getting rid of clothes that didn’t fit.  This is something I do every year, getting rid of clothes I no longer wear or don’t fit me very well anymore.   (I give my clothes to charity, in case you were wondering)

 But it can be hard, tough to let go of the clothes I once fit into.

Sometimes the clothes no longer fit due to age, as my body has changed.  Or it could be due to the exercise (or lack of) I’ve done over the year, again changing my shape.  

Years ago, it was due to the constant dieting, re-gaining, dieting again syndrome.

And I used to hold on to my skinny clothes for YEARS.  Like 10 years.

But as I’ve healed my relationship with food and my body, I no longer hang on to clothes that old (or maybe I should check the BACK of my closet to double check!)

Ever notice how sometimes when we wore those “skinny clothes” we thought we were FAT?  And now we’d give anything to fit back into them! 

So it got me thinking: 

Do we really need to hold on to our skinny jeans? 

Does holding on to clothes that no longer fit really motivate people to lose weight OR could it be holding them back?  

I find there are generally Two Schools of Thought:

Part With Skinny Jeans

Some people say that keeping clothes that no longer fit may actually hurt your self-esteem and hinder your weight loss efforts. Why?   Because they become a constant reminder that you’re not at your “ideal” size.  

And there are those who keep their skinny clothes for years and years (like I used to do).  Some say if you hold on to clothes for too long, it can make you depressed and feel sadness for memories of what could never be again.  Once the clothes are gone, they feel they can go forward instead of living in the past.

Retain Possession of Skinny Jeans

Others say keeping some old clothes, like their skinny jeans, actually does motivate them.  Gives them something to work towards and is a reminder of what they’re aiming for.  And then once they DO fit back into them, they feel a sense of pride and accomplishment.

So I’d like to hear from you.  What are your thoughts?

Does holding on to those “skinny jeans” help or hinder your weight-loss efforts?

To Count or Not To Count (calories, that is) – That is The Question

A conversation started between me and some other people on (and off) Twitter today.  It all started when my friend at Miz Fit Online blogged about what she eats, because a lot people are curious and want to know.

She talks about how personally she doesn’t count calories or points, doesn’t go hungry, doesn’t think about macronutrients, but instead  ’eats clean.’  She says:

“The cleaner you eat the more calories you can consume while not gaining weight.”

 In short, for her, eating clean is:

 “High quality foods which are as free as you can get them of not-found-in-nature additives.”  

And I do the same.  

She also says how people are sometimes surprised that she doesn’t eat like a bird.  And I don’t eat like a bird either (people are often shocked when they see I eat like a ‘normal’ person).

In her post, Miz Fit also said:

“a calorie isnt a calorie isnt a calorie & I learned to read labels.”

and that is SO true (no matter what some people say about it only being calories in vs. calories out — the type of calories DO matter).

I made a comment on her blog post  how I eat and think a lot like she does.  Then I went on Twitter and posted part of my original comment:  

“I too NEVER count calories, don’t go hungry, DO go for taste, REAL taste of REAL food.”

Well, that got some people talking.  And it got me thinking.  

People dieting, or trying to maintain their weight, often ask me the question:  To Count or Not to Count?

They want to know:   What should I count?  Should I count calories, fat grams, carbs, points, etc?  

So, here’s what I think:

Everybody needs to find what works for THEM.  We are all different, we have different needs, lifestyles, jobs, and we all like different foods.  Yes, it is better to eat broccoli than french fries from a fast food joint — but you already know that.

Though I don’t count calories or points, it took me a while to get there.  I do eat “intuitively,” and it took me a while to get there.  And I listen to my body to know what to eat……but it took me a while to get there.  I can eat a bowl of ice cream without devouring (or wanting to devour) the whole thing, BUT (you guessed it…) it took me a while to get there. (more on that below, because I can take you there faster!)

I know a lot of you DO count points, calories, fat grams, etc.  

And if that’s what makes you feel comfortable and what works for you — then that’s okay.  

You won’t, and really can’t, count calories your entire life (who wants that?).  But I know, especially in the beginning,  you may need or want to.  It helps you stay on track and keep control.  I get that.  I’ve been there and done that.  So I really understand.

But you don’t have to do this your entire life.  

You can get to the point of where I am today.  You can eat intuitively, know what your body wants, and eat “guilty” foods without losing control.  It can be done.  You just need to take one step at a time.  And you need the right TOOLS to help you along the way.

I do have clients that are following diet plans, like Weight Watchers, or South Beach, or whatever.  And that’s okay.  It makes them comfortable in the beginning.  Because if I just say “listen to your body” they don’t understand how to do it.  Working together I get them to a place where they can listen to their body and not count calories or points anymore.  And they never go back.

Okay — so now you’re screaming:  ”But I want to know HOW I can get to that place!”  

HOW can I lose weight without counting calories or points?

Well, it just so happens that I’m putting together a program that teaches you.  It gives you the tools so you can start to live a life without counting.  It won’t happen overnight, because we all know that a “quick fix”  won’t work in the long run.  

I took me a while to get there, but you can take what I learned, experienced, and have taught my clients — to save you time, energy, and yes, even money.

Because it doesn’t have to take you years.  It doesn’t have to take forever.  And you don’t have to wait until “someday” to eat comfortably like a “normal” person.  And it doesn’t have to be hard.   Learn from me and I’ll show you the way.  The road is right there, you just can’t see it.  I’ll help take down those roadblocks so you CAN see the road.

It just takes knowing what to do, how to do it, when to do it, and why.  

So stay tuned as I will give you the tools.  And you don’t have to build a mansion with them.  Just a small house.  A nice, comfortable, clean house.  You can do it.  I know you can.  Because I have, my clients have, and the hundreds of other people I’ve helped in workshops and seminars have.  

And if you have to count calories or points right now, that’s okay.  It really is.

The Inside Scoop on Losing Weight

 

10 Ways to Keep Your Weight Loss Momentum

For many people this is the second week into their New Year’s Resolution to lose weight.  

But before you go any further, there are some tips that you NEED TO KNOW.  We often go into the New Year thinking, “This is finally going to be the year,” only to find that by mid-February we’ve all but given up — and all of that chocolate around Valentine’s Day becomes our good friend again.

I WANT this year to be different for you. I WANT this to be your year to lose weight, get healthy, and feel great about your body!   But there are some crucial steps that can make the difference between being on track and reaching your gaol — or falling off the wagon.

If you follow these tips, I promise you will not only feel better, but you’ll look at your weight loss with much more confidence and success! 

Figure out the ‘why.’  We’re often so caught up in the hows – how to eat better foods, how to cut back on processed foods, and how to shop for healthy foods.  But understanding the why can be a powerful motivator.  Why do you want to lose weight?  Why is it so important to you?    Is it to be a role model for your children, to work and pursue your dreams, to feel good in your body, to be healthy, to fit into your old clothes, to finally feel you have what it takes to attract a partner?  

Don’t be in a hurry.  Be realistic about your time frame.  We often overestimate how much we will change in one month – say, lose 10 pounds – and then when we can’t do it, we give up.  Then we underestimate how much we could change in three, six or nine months and don’t make the effort.  Your life could be completely different in six months to a year!  

It takes 3 to 6 months before a change becomes routine, and at least 6 months for a habit to become a natural part of your personality.  Imagine, by summer your life could be so much better and those unhealthy habits (and excess weight) gone!

Don’t live in the past – learn from the past.  If you’ve attempted a resolution before and didn’t get the results you hoped for, it doesn’t mean you can’t try again.  The past does not predict failure in the future.  Don’t let the ‘ghost of past resolutions’ stop you!

Break it down into small steps.  We often get so overwhelmed by trying to do it all that we get burnt out & give up.  Don’t think you have to do it ALL right away.  Instead, break it down into smaller and more manageable steps.  Can you do something once a week to begin with?  Don’t think you need to do everything right from the start.  

Don’t go it alone.  Time and time again studies show that having a support system is the key to weight loss.  Just last year, in the largest and longest study of weight loss maintenance strategies, researches found that personal coaching was the main factor in helping participants lose weight AND keep it off.

Re-define “healthy eating.”  There is so much conflicting information out there about what is healthy food, and companies are now very savvy with their labeling and marketing to make items seem healthy, when in reality they’re not.  Educate yourself and lean what the terms on food labels REALLY mean.  

Get rid of the Guilt.  People trying to lose weight often have a lot of guilt.  They’ll eat something like a piece of cake, and then feel guilty about it.   They’ll drag that cake issue so it ruins their day, and then the next day.    That’s a huge mistake!  If you’re going to have the cake – really have the cake!  Enjoy it, eat it with vigor and pleasure and just let it be.  

Periodically re-evaluate.  Once you start eating better (and hopefully exercising) your body starts to adjust.  This is where you’ll often see a plateau.  You’re doing things right but not losing any weight.  Every month or so, you need to ask yourself  “What can I do better.  What can I do differently?”  You need to constantly look at ways to improve and increase the challenge. 

Be held accountable.  Most of us fail at our resolutions because we’re not held accountable.  If we don’t hit our goal for the week or the month we just say “oh well, it didn’t happen.”  And then continue to fall back into our old habits and gain back any weight we lost.  Do you really want it to be different this time around?  Then make sure you have some kind of accountability set up.   

Change your relationship with food.  When you change your relationship with food, then you stop using food to fill other areas of your life:   to soothe, to comfort, or to ease stress.  Instead, you’ll start to use food what it’s really for — to give you strength, for health, for vitality, and for pleasure.   

So now you know ‘what’ you need to do to make your weight loss resolution a success – but do you need help implementing it?  Contact me today and I’ll help you get on track and stay on track, and keep the momentum going so this year will be YOUR year! 

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