I’m one of those people that need to ‘schedule’ my eating, or I’ll get ravenous.  Just ask anyone…when I’m hungry watch out!  My blood sugar drops and I get a bit (or a lot) cranky.  So I always have a snack with me, especially when I know I’m going to be out all day and may not be able to eat at my regularly scheduled time.

So being away from home, my schedule is totally off, including my eating times.  I like to eat three square-meals a day.  I’m not a big fan of snacking, but I do so when I feel my tummy getting hungry so I’ll grab something (preferably healthy & with some protein) to hold me over (so I don’t pig out when dinner time rolls around!).

And though I’ve eaten more than my far share of beef these last few weeks (hey, I’m in Texas….they know their beef!), not to mention the hamburgers, chicken tortilla’s, and frozen chocolate bars, my stomach feels lighter.

So what the heck is going on?

I know for a lot of my clients, they’ve heard over and over again that snacking is good for you.  And sure, snacking CAN be a good thing.  But all too often, these ‘snacks’ become as big as regular meals.  And I find too many people eat all day long (but in their head they’re just ‘snacking.’)

We’ve literally become trained to snack all the time.  And we can eat, or drink, almost anywhere, any time of day, and purchase food (even prepared foods) everywhere we turn.

We’ve also become trained NOT to feel our hunger.  We’ve been told over and over again by experts, the media, and food company that we need to snack.

Back to my story — I’ve realized that although I’ve been eating a bit more ‘forbidden’ foods these last few weeks.  I have NOT been snacking.   AND…I’ve been eating when I’m hungry, and yes, stopping when I’m full.  When my body says, “Okay Dinneen, it’s time to fill me up with some food so I can have energy and feel better,” I sit down and eat a real meal.  I’m not picking all day at food.   I’ve been listening, really listening, to my hunger signals.

Here are some other tidbits I’ve noticed over the last few weeks that will help YOU not to fall into the snack-trap that can unknowingly pack on some unwanted extra pounds:

1)  Eat Enough Protein.  After just a few weeks working with my clients, I often find they’re not eating enough.  Yup, that’s right….they’re not eating enough.  When trying to lose weight, this can surprisingly be an issue.   Sure it’s great to cut-down on the chips, soda, ice cream, and apple pie a la mode when trying to shed some pounds.  But what dieters do is fill up mostly on veggies, fruits, and so-called ‘diet’ foods.  Now at face value that might seem okay.

But what often happens is you’re eating too many fruits & vegetables, and not enough protein….and not leaving room for some special treats from time to time.  So our bodies use up the fruits and veggies pretty quickly — especially as we often kick our exercise up-a-notch when losing weight — and our bodies get depleted.  We also need to remember to get enough protein.  Sure, healthy protein is better, but even eating beef can really do your body good.  I’ve been getting my fair share of protein lately, but squaring it off with enough vegetables, fruits and whole grains.

Now before you freak out, I’m not advocating the Atkins diet — but I do often find that we (especially Americans) eat too little protein, or not the right kind.  So be sure you’re meals have a good portion of healthy protein.

And for you vegetarians, vegans, or raw foodies out there — yes, eating lots of fruits and vegetables IS a good thing.  But we also need to be sure to get enough protein, even if it’s in the form of whole grains, beans, legumes, nuts, seeds or other non-meat sources.

2)  Filler Up by eating Three Square Meals.  Don’t go skipping breakfast or not eating lunch simply because you want to save calories.  Yes, you do need to make sure you’re not eating too many calories, but don’t get caught in the feast or famine thinking.

In addition, it’s been recently shown that trying to spread out your calories for the day — rather than sitting down to regular meals — may throw off your body’s internal clock.  Which just makes it more difficult for your body to recognize hunger and satiety cues — to the point that you no longer ‘feel’ or understand what it’s like to be hungry, but you also never feel quite full. (More on that on tip #4).

3)  Have a Purpose.  aka, keep busy.  Don’t you ever notice when you’re bored, or not really enjoying what you’re doing, all you want to do is eat?  Sure, you might think you’re hungry, but many times it’s just because the food ‘is there’ or we’re bored…so we eat.  While I’ve been in Texas I’ve had a purpose: helping take care of my brother.  This has included doing errands, driving him to doctor appointments, physical therapy, or to the supermarket.  I’ve been busy.  But not just busy as in ‘things to take up my time’…I’ve been busy doing things that make me feel useful, and give me a sense of purpose.

Ever notice when you’re really involved in a project that you really enjoy, time just goes by and look at the clock and realize you haven’t eaten in hours?  Or you’ve missed lunch?  (okay, maybe that doesn’t happen to you…).  This is often because we eat when we’re not really physically hungry.  But when you’re involved in something you really like, you don’t have time to get bored.

You stop and realize your stomach is growling or you’re body needs some food for energy.  It’s kind of a way of ‘training’ your body to speak for you….and not your mind.  Because all too often we think we’re hungry and getting signals from our body, when in reality it’s our mind telling us it’s hungry .  Our mind isn’t hungry, it’s that we’re bored, angry, frustrated, or just looking for something to keep it busy.

Which brings me to…

4)  Listen to your BODY.  Do you find yourself eating, simply because the clock says 12 noon, or it’s time for your favorite tv show, or because the kids are home from school so ‘it’s time to eat’?  Now there’s nothing wrong with keeping a regular eating schedule.  I do.  But on days when I just don’t feel hungry at 12 noon, I stop and ask myself “am I really hungry?”, and think about my plans for the next few hours.  If I’m not hungry, and have the time to eat 30 minutes or an hour later, I’ll wait.  However, if I’m at my office and know in an hour I have a call with a client, I’ll have some lunch even if I’m not quite fully hungry.  But I’ll eat accordingly.  I’ll eat just enough to fill me up and keep my body running, and if I need a snack later on I’ll grab one.  But I don’t kid myself that my ‘snack’ is a meal replacement.  It’s not.  It’s merely something small to keep my energy levels up.

5)  Grazing is for animals.  Okay, now there’s nothing wrong with grazing.  But grazing can turn into ‘eating a whole meal’ without even realizing it.

So if you DO snack, yes, it’s okay.  But sit down at a table, even use a small plate, and pay attention to what you’re eating so you’re focused on the food.  Don’t go grab a granola bar and eat it while walking around the house or sitting at your office desk.  Okay, I realize that’s not always feasible.  But back in the day when I worked in the corporate world, when I did have a snack I would sit at my desk, away from my computer, and take 5 minutes to sit and focus on my food.  Even if it’s just an apple.  But really paying attention to that apple (instead of reading emails) can make a big difference.

And like I mentioned earlier, it has been suggested that eating regular meals is better than grazing all day long.  And if you think about many other cultures where the obesity rate is lower than here in the U.S., oftentimes they don’t snack.  Or they only snack from time to time.  It’s not a daily thing.

6)  It’s OKAY to feel hunger.  We’re often afraid to get hungry, thinking that if we do we’ll devour the whole plate of chocolate chip cookies.  But that’s not the case.  Unless you allow yourself to get too hungry or ravenous, those are the times when you want to eat everything in site.  But having some hunger is a good thing.  Yes, it’s a good thing.  It’s your body’s internal cue of when it’s time to eat.   So don’t fear hunger — honor it.  Sure, it can take some time to realize the point when hunger turns to ravenousness, but over time you’ll start to interpret the signals better.  But in order to do that, you need to FEEL hunger.

Now this doesn’t mean you need to be really hungry every time you eat, whether it be a meal or a snack, but give your body enough time to get hungry so you can know what it feels like.   I’ve had many clients admit to me that they’ve never  felt hungry.  They’re so afraid of hunger that they’re constantly eating and snacking all day to ward it off.  So learn to listen to your hunger, honor it, and you’ll learn how to read it’s signals better and better.

So though snacking can be a good thing, just be aware that’s it’s something to hold you over until your next meal.  Eat three square meals a day, eat balanced meals, get enough exercise, have a sense of purpose in life, listen to your body — the ingredients to ANY happy life, whether you want to lose weight or not — and you’ll feel better, look better, and wonder why you didn’t do this all along.

So what are you’re thoughts on Snacking?  Do you do it regularly, sometimes, or never at all?  Do you feel it helps you keep your weight in-check, or do you think it could be a trap allowing you to eat too much and not really feel your hunger signals?

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But they often (excuse my French)…..piss me off.

Why?

Because it seems at least once a week (actually, it’s usually a few times a week) they have a story about weight-loss.  And the “right” foods to eat.  And the right diet.  And how to be slim and happy.  Yadda, yadda, yadda…

“Lose 10 pounds by eating superfoods!” “Sugar is bad (no wait, good) for your heart!” “Lose belly fat for good!”  ”How to walk off the weight!”  ”Celebrity diet secrets!” they scream.  It’s like I’m watching the cover of the latest diet magazine.

Anyway, on Monday they had Jason Alexander (aka George Constanza on “Seinfeld”) who is the new Jenny Craig spokesperson.  (The last company he was a spokesperson for was KFC.  Go figure).  Now, nothing against Jason, he was funny as hell on Seinfeld.  But what he was saying about his weight-loss just irked me.

Why?

Because he talked about how he was “fat” and how his eating had “gotten out of control the last 20 years.”  Now I wouldn’t really consider him fat — sure, he could have lost a few pounds but he didn’t seem so overweight that it was a health issue.  But I get it.  He wanted to look and be slimmer.  I get it.

But it seems (actually, it’s clear) that Jenny Craig is now going after the male population.  Now they too have to be slimmer, sexier, and wear a smaller pants size to be a better person.  There is “Jenny Craig for Men.”   Now men are the target of the diet industry, which I guess really shouldn’t come as a shocker.

But then Jason went on to say how it’s all about “calories in vs. calories out.”  Which is something we hear all of the time.  But I gotta tell you… weight loss is NOT just about that.  Because 1000 calories of fruits and vegetables does NOT equal 1000 of burgers and fries.  And just eating the “right” amount of calories and burning off the “right” amount of calories does not equal a good diet.

He then went on to talk about how he had “no willpower” and “if it (the diet) is hard, I’m not a good candidate.”   “If this was really difficult, I’d be a dismal failure,” he continued.  Then he went on to say — which is what really irked me — that they, Jenny Craig “do all the work for you.”

So basically, what he was saying was — I don’t want to work for it, I don’t want to think about it, just give me what I need to eat and I’ll be thin.” Which I guess it what a lot of people want — fast, easy, quick, no-brainer.

Here’s the problem: losing weight shouldn’t be, and isn’t, about willpower, doing the ‘right’ things, and it’s definitely not about someone giving you a meal to microwave (which Jenny Craig does) and telling you to eat it.  Jenny Craig’s system is set up that you buy and eat their prepared foods.  Sure, they say you also need to incorporate some healthy fruits and vegetables….hello?  Not rocket-science.  But if you don’t even have to think about what the heck you’re eating, how are you going to keep the weight off?

On top of it, but if Jason (and everyone else wanting to lose weight) doesn’t look into the deeper reasons as to WHY you overeat, you’ll never keep the weight off.  You’ll be constantly struggling with food.  Even if you don’t think it’s a struggle, let me tell you it will be.

Back to his comment that “they” do all of the work for you.  If you really want to lose weight — I mean REALLY — then YOU have to do the work.  And I’m not just talking about the cooking, eating right, and exercising.  I’m talking about the inner work. Because the majority of people who are overweight didn’t get there simply because they ate the wrong foods, or didn’t exercise, or because they ‘love’ food.

It’s because they weren’t willing to look deeper into themselves to get to the root of the issue. (read that again).

And no, it’s not about going back to your childhood and solving your ‘problems’….it’s about becoming real with who you are, what you want out of life, and what’s going on inside.  Once you understand why you eat, what you’re really hungry for, how to love yourself (and your body), and to feel true fulfillment in life you won’t need the false security that food provides.

Even Valerie Bertinelli, the female spokesperson for Jenny Craig, talked about in her second book Losing It, that “dieting fixes one problem, but to maintain that weight loss, you have to work on everything else.”   Let’s hope Jason Alexander soon realizes the same.

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I’ve seen too many women spend years dieting, spending hundreds (more like thousands) of dollars on weight-loss programs and diets.  And having self-esteem issues because they just ‘can’t follow the diet.’

Well, you might not like hearing this, but…

The multibillion dollar diet industry thrives on your failure.   They need you to keep coming back to them for business.  The diet and weight-loss industry is built on repeat business.  It would be a very short-lived business if we all succeeded the first time.

And let’s face it, if they could really show you how to lose weight AND keep it off — you wouldn’t have to keep purchasing their products, attend their meetings, and buying their special foods.

And some of the “big name” diet and weight-loss organizations are owned by food companies ….(makes you think, huh?).

Americans alone spend over $55 billion (yup, Billion!) dollars a YEAR on weight-loss products.  And as a nation we keep getting heavier and heavier.  I think the ‘industry’ is doing something right — to put money in their pocket.

And let’s face it — diets don’t work.  There are different statistics out there, some even saying that 95% of all people on a diet gain the weight back within a few years.  I can tell you from my own personal experience this has been true for me.

In addition, diets do NOT teach you how to trust yourself.  The basic message of a diet is:  if you trusted yourself, you would start eating at one end of your kitchen and chew all the way across the U.S.  (okay, I’m exaggerating, but you get the idea).  But basically they tell you that if you trusted yourself  you’d never stop eating.  So, you need to trust them and their ‘rules.’  And do what they say, as opposed to learning to listen to yourself.

Another thing that is that weight-loss should not be the goal.  It should be the by-product of learning how to listen to your body for when it’s hungry, what is needs, and what it wants.  In other words –a healthy relationship with food, weight and your body.   Because when you lose weight….you don’t lose the reasons WHY you turned to food in the first place.

Let me repeat that:  when you lose the weight, you don’t lose the reasons why you turned to food in the first place.

For these reasons, and many others, is why I started Eat Without Guilt in the first place.  I struggled for so long, yo-yo dieting, feeling like a failure, that I had no willpower, that I just couldn’t follow the “rules”, and that if I could ONLY just lose weight I would be happy, joyful, peaceful and content.  Losing weight would make me not only happier, but a better person.  Boy was I wrong.

I want to help as many people as I can break free of the diet and overeating cycle and live a healthier, more satisfying life.  And to set you free so you can continue it on your own.  And to learn how to support YOURSELF.

And that’s just one of the reasons why I created an Intuitive Eating Success Class – to set you free and give you the tools to continue it on your own…for life.  Without having to pay me over and over again.  I’d love nothing more to have you in my course, and then see you continue on your own without my help (I’m not kidding!).

You see (especially women) we are so good at supporting everyone around us that we tend to put ourselves at the bottom of the list. We are constantly under pressure, overwhelmed and have many demands at both home and at work. We expect ourselves to be superwomen….and everyone else does too.  So for many, this translates into having an unhealthy relationship with food. The only way we know to give ourselves a break or a ‘treat’ is to eat something.

I want women (and men) to get back on the path to returning to your own natural instinct to eat when you are hungry and stop when you feel comfortably full or satisfied. So you never have to spend a dime on weight loss products again.  Ever.

My intuitive eating course, and my eat without guilt philosophy, is not a diet or plan.  Instead, it’s about  regaining the pleasure and enjoyment of eating without guilt and punishment.  About learning how to listen to yourself and your body.  How to discover if you’re really hungry, what you’re hungry for, and to bring complete awareness to what you are eating.  How to begin creating lasting peace with food.

About how to uncover your automatic response to emotions – and how to steer it away from food (because so many of us turn to food for emotional reasons, not physical ones.  Or we’ve been dieting or overeating for so many years that we no longer ‘know’ the difference between to two).

It’s about helping you respect your body and do what’s right for YOU (not what the newest ”study” or weight-loss guru says).

That’s what I’m all about.  Helping people get back to learning how to trust themselves again. And be really comfortable around food.  And not dieting and feeding the diet industry.  But to learn how to feed ourselves, our body and soul, and treating ourselves with kindness….NOW, not when we lose the ‘weight.’

So, what are your thoughts?  Do you agree, do you think I’m being too negative (about the diet industry)?  What has been your experience with diets?  I’d love to hear your thoughts — and yes, even if you don’t agree with what I say.  That’s the main reason for this post!  To start a discussion…

(for information about the upcoming Intuitive Eating Success class, just click here)

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I looked over at the next table and saw a young girl who had a piece of pizza on the plate in front of her.  I saw the mother trying to coax her to eat, but the girl was just too interested in looking around, saying hi to other people in the restaurant, and she even got up to check out flowers in the restaurant.

Then she went back to her seat, started talking to her brother, and then finally (after about 5 minutes) she took her first bite of pizza.

And then it hit me — that’s what Intuitive Eating (also called mindful eating) is all about.  About getting back to that place where *life* is more interesting and fulfilling that food isn’t so important anymore.

Now don’t get me wrong, I love food and I really enjoy eating.  And when I sit down to eat most of the time I’m hungry.

But in our culture, we are so attuned to food being used as a solution to our issues, to food being used as a recreation, to food being used as a social tool, that we have seemingly forgotten that foods primary purpose –is  to nourish our bodies. AND that eating can be (and should be!) physically pleasurable.

But for so many, food often plays other roles and seems to have taken precedence over many other things in our life.

But food shouldn’t be a substitute for pleasure in life.…it should be a part of it.  And just like this young girl at the Italian restaurant — she was so interested in other things that the food was no longer so important.

You see, intuitive or mindful eating gets you back in touch with your actual needs, and gives us permission to once again experience the pure pleasure of eating.   It’s a common sense, hunger-based approach to eating, where you are encouraged (and learn HOW) to eat when and only when your body tells you it is hungry.  But for many of us, dieting has made a sort of ‘disconnect’ in those signals.

When someone is disconnected to her internal cues of hunger or fullness, it is easier to be trigged by external triggers to eat — such as emotions, stress, being tired, because the clocks says it’s 12 noon, opportunity, and/or perceived ‘rules’ of eating.

If someone has rigid rules for so-called healthy eating, she is more likely to succumb to overeating, as a consequence of breaking the well-meaning rules.

With intuitive eating, instead of focusing on dieting, you’ll to focus your attention to what you love.  Because if you love your LIFE, you’ll want to take care of your body.

So aim to be like the girl I saw in the restaurant — where food is a part of life and life’s pleasure, but it doesn’t control you or your day.  No matter what your way of eating, you can apply an intuitive approach to it–it’s about a way of living and relating to food, not about a food plan.

And for those of you who would like to learn further, and get back to that place where food is just food, where you don’t eat with your emotions but instead with your stomach and inner guidance — I have a new class that will get you there.  It’s an 8-week course that will change the way you think about food, help you break free of the dieting and overeating cycle, and take back control of your weight and your life.  And it’s starting at the end of this month.

All the details are here, if you want check it out:

http://www.IntuitiveEatingSuccess.com

The course is definitely not a diet or eating plan, but instead a way of experiencing life which allows you to be present and aware so that you are able to listen to your body and choose food based on nourishment and self-care.

I’m so passionate about this and feel the message is an important one for any woman who wants to handle her relationship with food, her weight, and her life in a healthy way, and to become truly whole. If that is you, you will not be disappointed, I promise.

©2010 Eat Without Guilt. All Rights Reserved.

A few weeks ago I had a bit on an epiphany.  It was after lunch.  I had eaten a small lunch so a few hours later was hungry and decided to have some of the nuts my husband had bought.

But these weren’t a can or container of nuts.  These were “real” nuts.  You know, the kind with the shell still on them?  There were Brazil nuts, almonds, and walnuts.

So I took a handful and started opening them one-by-one with a nutcracker (let me remind you I haven’t done this in years).  As I was doing this I realized I was putting effort into eating.

In other words, I had to WORK to get my food.  And anyone who has opened nuts with a nutcracker knows that it takes time.  With the time and effort it took, after about five minutes I had eaten about only 7 or 8 nuts.  But it was just enough time for my body to tell me it was full.  I wasn’t hungry anymore so I put the unopened nuts away.

Just then I realized that if, instead, I had opened a can of nuts – the ones with the shell already taken off – I would have eaten about 40 of them (or even more) in the five minutes!  Think about how easy it is to just munch on nuts and before you know it half the container is gone!

So by working for my food, I ate less.

The same for dinner that night.  I had an orange after my salad and pizza (yes, I DO eat pizza!).  As it’s winter and I don’t get much Vitamin C, I decided to have an orange.  Again, same story.  I had to peel that orange to eat it.

Okay, I know that’s not a lot of work.  But I could have easily just poured myself a glass of orange juice and within 10 seconds be done with it.  But by peeling the orange, I had to do a little work.   In addition, by eating the fruit itself, I get all of the fiber and nutrients that get lost when processed into juice.

By having to do some “work,” I had time to actually focus on my food, enjoy it, and think about where it came from (as it was still in it’s natural state).

We just eat so mindlessly today.  We need to put little (if any) energy into getting or eating our food.  Today most of us just open a box or put something in the microwave.  Much of our food is “convenient” so we put almost no effort into it.

Now I don’t think you should go out and hunt for your food like the cavemen did.  However, I do want to make you aware of how EASY it is today to just pop something in the microwave, open a box, or call for take-out.  (Yes, I do each of these myself sometimes, but not all the time).

We need to take a step back and realize that our environment is affecting our weight.

Losing or maintaining weight is not just about eating the right foods at the right times.  It’s also about being aware of your environment and how it affects not only your food choices, but your efforts to lose weight.

Like I often say:  Losing weight is not just about the food.  And no, it’s not nuts.  But I, for one, will ‘work’ for my food.

© Dinneen Diette.  All Rights Reserved.

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Note:  This article I originally wrote  for the blog of Miz Fit Online as a guest post last year (you can read the original post here).  But it’s message and usefulness has not changed, so I wanted to share it with you this week.  -Dinneen

As a weight loss coach and mentor, I help many women lose weight, look better AND feel better, and I’m constantly meeting women who struggle with food and their weight.  And I get it, as I’ve been there myself.

For years I struggled to lose weight, and even when I was finally  “thin,” I spent many more years eating low-fat, low-calorie, and low-tasting foods.  Food and eating was not an enjoyment for me.  Any food I ate that was remotely decadent or a “bad” food, left me feeling guilty and eventually lead me to overeat.  And so started a vicious cycle of dieting, losing weight, putting it back on, dieting again, and on and on.

What I ate either helped me lose weight, or gain weight, or so I thought.  It wasn’t until a trip to Italy, and then a few years later living & working in France, did I learn that I could enjoy foods without guilt, lose weight and stay slim.

My world was literally turned upside down.   And so was my life.

And so began a journey of education, self-awareness, and self-growth that led me to the extraordinary life I live today.  I can eat the foods I love, and still stay healthy, and yes, slim.

As a weight-loss coach and mentor I help women and men lose weight, get healthy, and feel good about themselves.  And part of that is helping them with their relationship with food.

You see, it wasn’t’ until I changed my relationship with food was I able to lose weight and keep if off, and without deprivation.  Even Oprah Winfrey has had ups & downs with her weight and, in my opinion, she will not keep it off until she has a healthy relationship with food. (for more about my thoughts about Oprah and her weight, visit my blog post from last year).

In my business I’ve come across women (and young girls) who suffer from an eating disorder.  Eating disorders arise from a variety of physical, emotional, and social issues, all of which need to be addressed for effective prevention and treatment.

This week is the National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.  If you suspect, or know, someone suffering from the disease please visit the website of the National Eating Disorders Association.  There you will find an abundance of information and resources to help support those affected by eating disorders.  It is there to help a friend, family member, colleague, or loved one get help.

In the United States alone, as many as 10 million females and 1 million males suffer from an eating disorder, and approximate 15 million more are suffering with a binge eating disorder.*  More people die every year from an eating disorder than any other mental illness.  Yes, it’s that bad and that prevalent.

Also, statistics say that more than one in three ‘normal’ dieters progress to pathological dieting (that is, it becomes a very unhealthy obsession with food & weight).

So help spread the word. I see too many women, of all ages, obsessed with their weight and their bodies – and they look fine!   In my mission to help women lose weight and be HEALTHY, it is also my mission help women feel good in their body, no matter what the scale says.  Now that is something to be proud of.  I sure am.

So check out the National Eating Disorders Association, and help someone who needs it.

* 2010 figures, source:  National Eating Disorders Association

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Good advice, but often people tell me that they don’t even know what hungry feels like.  They either feel hungry all to time, or can’t decipher if their “hunger” is true hunger or emotional hunger.  Many people on their weight-loss journey have lost their ability to even know what real (ie biological) hunger feels like.

And it’s more common than you think.

The Clock Strikes 12

For some people it’s simply because they’ve never allowed themselves to be hungry.  They eat all the time.  Or they eat simply because it’s meal-time.  The clock say’s 12 noon so they just eat.  They’re not really hungry, but they’ve been eating at this time for so long they actually think they’re hungry.  But their body isn’t giving them the signals.  They have just been on autopilot for so long, that they believe they are hungry but in reality their body is not.

Food, Food Everywhere

We live in a society today where food is around all of the time.  Any time of day, any day of the week, you can easily get food.  So we can eat at all hours of the day.  And there’s no longer eating ‘hours’ for breakfast, lunch and dinner.  It is completely acceptable to “eat” at all hours of the day.

This was something different I experienced living in France.  If I wanted to eat lunch, whether it be in my office at work, or on the weekends while strolling around town – cafeteria’s, restaurants, canteens, etc where only open during lunch hours.  And I would be hard pressed to find a vending machine anywhere.

Other Voices

There are other ‘voices’ of hunger like eating to fill emotions.  And emotional eating is one of the top reasons diets fail.  But when you divert your attention from whatever is causing you angst (like a bad day at the office) by eating, you’re often just making the problem even worse.

And the food can act like a drug. Eating can take the edge off what ever is going on, similar to the way a drink does for alcoholics, but unfortunately this tactic is a temporary fix at best.  After you’re done eating, you still have to deal with the original problem.

Tuning In

But know that the first step to “finding your biological hunger” is to listen to it.

Now it sounds/feels different for different people.  Remember, we are all unique so just like eating patterns, biological hunger varies for everyone.

In the beginning, you might be able to recognize ravenous hunger (when you’re so hungry you could literally eat anything), but have difficulty recognizing gentle hunger pains.

So here are some tips to help you recognize when you are hungry:

-      mild (or loud!) rumbling in the stomach

-      light-headedness

-      headache

-      very low energy, feel a bit faint

-      uncomfortable stomach pain. It feels really empty

-      irritability

-      difficulty concentrating

Another tool to use is the Hunger Scale.  It’s a way to help you identify your hunger and get in touch you’re your body’s inner signals.

If you’re not familiar with the hunger scale, it a scale of 1 to 10.  With 1 being extreme hunger (you feel so hungry you could literally pass out) to 10 being beyond full (like after eating Thanksgiving Dinner). The neutral point is five.  At 5, your body has enough fuel to keep it going and you’re more or less satisfied.  You could eat a bit more, but physically your body is fine.

Every time you eat, check your hunger level.  Ideally, for you to be truly hungry, you should be at a 3 or 4.  If you’re 5 or above, you’re not biologically hungry.

So begin to really listen to your stomach, and not what the clock says, not what your ‘head’ is telling you, and not because you’re feeling some type of emotion.

It’s all a part of what’s called intuitive eating. Eating when you’re really hungry, stopping when you are full, and listening to your body.  If you can start listening to your true hunger signals and eat because you are physically hungry, then you are slowly on your way to honoring your hunger and

Part of eating intuitively is knowing what hunger feels like, honoring it, and giving it (and your body) the proper nutrition it needs.

Want to learn more about listening and honoring your hunger, how to stop when you’re full, and how the heck to really listen to your body and give it what it needs? Want more insight into knowing when you’re truly hungry? Then be sure to register for my upcoming f.r.e.e. call where I’ll be covering this and MORE.  Learn how YOU can listen to your hunger and your body and lose weight in the process.  Get all the details here.

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Don’t  just assume you can’t reach your goal — you can!  Of course, you do need to make sure your weight-loss goal is a realistic one, but all too often I find that even “healthy” habits can get in the way of the scale moving in the right direction.

Okay, you think I’ve lost it.  You’re thinking, “How can healthy behaviors be getting in my way?”  Well oftentimes just some small adjustments can make big payoffs.  Here are some surprising reasons why you’re not losing the weight and how to switch up your strategy to get that scale moving down a notch:

1)  You’re loading up on whole grains.  You’ve cleared your pantry of snacks made with white flour and replaced them with heart-healthy whole-grain versions.  But many of these snacks can be high in sugar, fat and sodium…not to mention calories.

I recently was at a supermarket where you can sample some of the products, and I saw they had a “healthy, whole-grain, organic” granola bar.  I’m always looking to try something new, so I took a small piece.  Within a few seconds the sugar content was just too overwhelming for me.  I looked at the package — for 1 serving (one bar at 35 grams) it had 13 grams of sugar!  I was thinking, “I’d rather just have a cookie!” and it was a quick reminder why I don’t often eat “packaged” snacks (if I have a cookie, 8o% of the time I bake them myself).   And studies have shown that those who eat the least amount of processed whole-grain foods (like snack foods and crackers) enjoy the biggest weight-control benefits.

So even if that packaged food is “whole grain” or has some other health-claim on it (and beware of those claims….) remember it is still packaged food.   Aim to eat things like brown and wild rice, bulgur, quinoa, spelt and oatmeal instead.  And try to keep the majority of your whole grains as close to “whole” as possible — meaning less processed.  A whole food (ie, real food) is much better for you than anything out of a package.

2)  You allow yourself a “cheat day”…or two.  Being one of my readers, and I’m sure from your own personal experience, you know that denying yourself all treats when trying to lose or maintain weight can set you up for a binge.  So your solution?  For being “good” during the week you allow yourself to splurge on weekends.  Now I’m not against having a cheat day here and there, but for many this feast or famine mentality can backfire.  And too often one cheat day turns into two, then three, and before you know a week (or weekS!) have gone by and you’re right back at where you started.

So if you do have a cheat day — keep it to a DAY.  And don’t use it as a free-pass to go crazy.  Don’t start the day with donuts for breakfast, then McDonald’s for lunch, and a huge pizza for dinner.  Allow yourself some treats or your favorite foods — but keep it to a minimum.  One good strategy is instead of having a cheat day, allow yourself a FEW SMALL treats a few times during the week, rather than waiting until Friday night to splurge.

3)  You make your own meals. Okay, cooking your own meals is one of (if not THE) best strategies for weight-loss, maintaining weight-loss, and overall better health.  But if you’re not mindful, some bad habits in the kitchen can easily translate into extra pounds.  For example:  picking at food while you cook, using a heavy hand with sauces and dressings, taking second (or third) helpings, and nibbling leftovers as you’re clearing the table.  So preparing and cooking your own meals is great, just be aware of some of these little ‘habits’ than can backfire if you’re not careful.

So get out there and cook — but don’t nibble too much and be aware of the “mindless eating” that can go on.

4)  You’ve made and keeping to a routine.  Now having a routine is good.  But often when it comes to our food, even healthy food, we can get STUCK in a routine.  Meaning we’re eating the same things over and over again.  You have a handful of recipes and meals that you prepare week after week.  And even if they’re healthy, you’re body starts to adjust.

So you need to try some new things and shake it up a bit.  And your body needs to get some different nutrients, minerals and vitamins.  So if you always have a banana with your cereal for breakfast, switch it up and and have some fresh berries instead.  Or whip up a fruit smoothie.  Maybe you have a salad with grilled chicken a few times a week for lunch  Make things different (and get some great Omega 3′s) and have a piece of salmon instead.  If your normal veggie with dinner is either broccoli or carrots, try something new like a spinach, kale, swiss chard, squash, zucchini, okra, leeks….the list goes on.  The point is you may need to be eating some different things to introduce to your body, AND to keep your taste buds happy.

5)  You like your exercise program.  It’s BEST to enjoy the exercise you’re getting, but you’ve been doing the same exercise routine for months.  Maybe you walk for 30 minutes 5 days a week.  Walking is great, but at some point you’re going to need to step it up or at least switch it up to see more weight loss.

Replace one day of walking with swimming, tennis, dancing, a fitness class at a local gym, yoga, running, do an exercise video at home….you get the idea.  But you need to challenge your body and to work different muscles.  And just like with your food, it’s a great way to avoid boredom.  Even if you love walking, add in some different exercises from time to time (or for even better results, at least once a week).

At the gym I often find myself doing the same old things:  elliptical or treadmill, some free weights and crunches (for my abs).  But at least every other week I force myself to do something different.   Even if it’s using a weight machine instead of the free weights.  The next day I’ll feel it in muscles in areas of my body I didn’t know existed!  Or I’ll take a stretching or yoga class.  Just something to keep my body (and mind) challenged and working a different area.

So don’t let an exercise routine become too habitual.  Time to time shake things up a bit and try something new.  You just might be surprised how your body reacts (in a positive way!)

So if the scale hasn’t moved for a while, take a look at some areas that could use some tweaking.  Though your body does need time to adjust to any weight loss, it is normal for the scale to not move much during a week or two.  But if it’s been weeks or months — take a closer look at making some small changes even if you’re doing everything “right”.

Some small tweaking could be just what your body needs to move the scale in the right direction.  As that’s what losing weight, and keeping it off, is all about….continually learning, fine tuning, and being open to new things.  Come to think of it, that’s what LIFE is all about.  And making the best of your life is what should be your motivation.  So shake things up!

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And after one week of being on the “diet” (no, not THAT kind of diet) I blogged about it. (To read more about my Elimination Diet and why “going on one” can be helpful at times, read my original blog post about it here.)

So though I LOVE wheat (you could say it’s ‘my crack’ as I could easily get addicted to it) I decided to eliminate it from my diet for at least a period of four weeks (but ended up doing it for five).  Then, as elimination diets go, one slowly adds back the food into their diet to see if it really is the “culprit.”

So here’s a lowdown of how it went for me, and what was in my thoughts during the process:

Week One: At first never thought I’d survive (there’s SO MUCH wheat in the American diet, even for someone like me who eats healthy).  First few days were difficult.  You know how you want what you can’t have?  But I knew, at least for a little while, it was only temporary.  But then by the end of the week I was feeling GREAT!  I was sleeping better, less bloated, had more energy, and my often ‘runny nose’ was going away.  Things were really looking up.  And my skin was getting better.

Week Two: Wow, can’t believe how good I feel.  And I’m not missing wheat so much anymore.  Thinking to myself, “why didn’t I do this before?”  Pants started to fit better, and though I did NOT weight myself — I’m guessing I lost a pound or two.  Okay, not much, but I don’t NEED to lose weight, and it wasn’t my goal.  Still sleeping good, got lots of energy, and overall feeling great.

Week Three: Oh my goodness, I miss pasta.  And bread.  And pizza.  And cereal.  And I feel like I’m running out of things to eat.  Energy just okay…..feel like I need to snack (on things like nuts) in order to keep my energy level up.  And missing my breakfast of cereal or whole wheat bread with all-natural peanut butter.  I eat breakfast and 2 hours later I’m hungry!!   Hmmm, what’s going on?  And, my eczema:  though skin looked like it was getting better the first week, is back to normal again. Eczema is still here.  Argh….probably why I feel like I want wheat.  But I keep on the road.

Week Four: (Christmas week)  Cravings (that were in my head in Week Three) are gone.  Don’t really care if I ever have pasta again (okay, who am I kidding??).  But seriously, I know that I can survive on eating a lot less wheat.  And went to Christmas Eve party where there was LOTS of wheat (think pasta, sandwiches on big thick rolls, cookies, more pasta….) I didn’t eat any…..and I was happy with it!  But was still able to eat and enjoy myself at the festivities.  Ditto for Christmas Day.  But my skin hasn’t really improved much.  Eczema is still there.  Same as before.  Runny nose coming back a bit (though less than it was before).

Week Five: (New Year’s week)  Still not seeing improvement in my skin or runny nose.  Though overall I’m feeling good, and my energy level is also pretty good, I’m getting a bit bored.  Yeah, my pants were feeling a bit better but now they’re back to where they were at Week One.  By not eating wheat I’m finding it “easy” to eat too many potatoes, and I even had potato chips at party two weeks ago.  And I’m finding I’m eating these foods (which I normally don’t each much, if at all) because I feel like “I can” and “I’m allowed too, ‘cuz hey, I’m not eating wheat!”  Which is exactly what happens to a lot of first-time vegetarians (but that’s a blog post for another time).

As the New Year rolls around, I decided to slowly let wheat back into my body.  Slowly.  And you know what?  Nothing changed.  Skin didn’t get worse, neither did runny nose.

So here’s my diagnosis (and I’m not a doctor….this is based on my personal and educated knowledge of both food and my body):  it’s not the wheat that is the culprit (or part of the culprit) to my eczema.

So what’s the reason for my increased energy, better sleeping, and what looked like better skin?  And what about my pants fitting slightly better???

Well, that’s simply because by not eating wheat, I WAS eating  TON of vegetables.  On a regular day/week I eat a lot more vegetables than the average American, and I already eat fairly healthy….but I was eating really, really well those first 2 weeks (until I started eating potato chips and other junk to replace the wheat).  I was the “Veggie Queen” and loving it.  And I was eating more fruits than normally this time of year (as it’s not really fruit season here in Boston, if you know what I mean).

So in order to “replace” the wheat, I was eating a lot more vegetables.  And yes, I was eating really healthy things like quinoa (a personal favorite) and lentils (lentils are awesome! I first “discovered” them when I lived in France and a great alternative to animal protein too), and beans.  Oh, and water too.  Don’t ask me why but I found myself drinking a lot of water (which is more difficult to do during the winter months)

So it WAN’T the fact that I “eliminated wheat” from my diet — but rather it WAS the fact that I was “adding in” a lot more really good things for me (that is, until I started eating potato chips….haven’t I mentioned that like 5 times already?)

So what am I doing now?  Well, to get rid of the eczema:  instead of the $50 bucks cream my dermatologist prescribed for me (which irritated my skin even more) —  I bought the generic $3 bucks over-the-counter Hydrocortisone which has done wonders.

And I’m now eating less wheat than before, and I’m feeling really good.  Though I do need to make it a conscious effort sometimes to think “lentils, beans, or quinoa” instead of wheat, I’m amazed how easy it is to still eat SOME wheat, but cut it down a lot (without missing it).  Oh, and now that I “can” eat wheat, I’m not eating things like potato chips to satisfy my “craving.”

AND, during those five weeks of my Elimination Diet I tried a lot of new recipes like lentil soup and different bean soups, chickpeas, edamame…I could go on & on….and ate a lot of variety especially in my veggies.  I had forgotten how much I loved things like butternut squash, sweet potatoes, parsnips, and other winter and root vegetables.  And it got me eating a lot of foods I liked, but hadn’t eaten for a while (like the lentils, chickpeas, edamame, parsnips).

So — moral of the story?  – even for ME, an expert in food & nutrition who has been able to keep her weight in a healthy range for many years and got over emotional eating…..time to time needs to “shake things up” a bit.  And that doesn’t mean you have to (or should) eliminate one food (or food group) from your diet.

The reason I did the elimination diet was to see if I had a SENSITIVITY or ALLERGY to a food — NOT to lose weight.

And I’m a better person for it as I’m eating a lot of foods I had forgotten about.  And it reminded me that nature has given us so many wonderful and good tasting foods that one doesn’t need to go looking for the perfect food or the fat-blasting superfood…..all foods that nature gave us are “super”.  We just need to eat a wide variety and keep (and maybe discover) new things all the time.

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If you’re looking for ways to save a little while food shopping, but don’t want to sacrifice good nutrition, you just may be surprised how easy it is to do both.

Eating healthier foods can actually save you money.  When people eat more healthfully (especially if the family does it together), they not only reduce their waistlines but their grocery bills go down too.

When people decide to eat healthier and lose a few pounds they usually do (and should): reduce portion sizes, buy fewer high-calorie foods, and purchase less ‘extras’, foods that add lots of calories but have little nutritional value like chips, sodas, or donuts.  These changes add up to savings at the grocery store.

Though convenience and high-calorie foods may seem cheaper, but as they have little or no nutritional value people tend to eat a lot of them.  Their body is saying “hey, I’m not satisfied and need nutrients so please eat more.”  So people who eat these cheap foods are often those who are more likely to be overweight.

First, because they’re eating unhealthy foods.  And second, because their body is lacking proper nutrition so they often eat a lot of it.  It’s a double whammy.

Here are some tips to help shrink your grocery bill AND your waistline:

1)  Buy produce in season. You’ve probably heard (or read) me say this more this once. When food is in season it’s when they’re the most nutritious AND least expensive.  Foods in season at the grocery store are priced to sell.  For example, during the summer months corn on the cob is quite cheap.  But try buying it other times of the year and you can pay up to 10 times as much.  Grocery stores often have special deals or a “buy of the week” on fruits and vegetables that are in season, so be sure to check them out.

2)  Purchase “overripe” produce. The grocery store I shop at has an area in the back of the produce section with fruits and vegetables that are overripe and thus for sale at a huge cut in price.

Often what we American’s think of as overripe produce is actually still quite good.  A banana with a some brown on it is actually at its peak.  But for some reason, we have been conditioned to believe that all produce needs to be evenly shaped and be the perfect color.  So when a grocery store wants to get rids of the produce that isn’t “nice looking,” they mark it down a good deal.

The first thing I do when I food shop is go to this ‘price reduction’ section and often find a bundle of produce really, really cheap.  With those ‘brown-looking’ bananas, I’ll make homemade banana bread, banana-choc-chip cookies (which are very yummy), or freeze them for my smoothies.

3)  Buy frozen or canned. When food is NOT in season, you may find it cheaper frozen or canned.  You can purchase frozen berries in the winter at a fraction of the price you would for fresh.  Besides, who wants fresh berries in December when they are bland, have no flavor, been shipped hundreds of miles to get to the store, and have the high price tag?

Produce is typically frozen or canned at the peak of ripeness, when nutrients are plentiful (noticing a trend here…?)

4)  Bring your lunch to work. Spending about $2 a day on a homemade lunch verses $6 a day on the sandwich shop next to your office will save you about $80 a month and $960 a year.

Here in downtown Boston (and the suburbs) sandwiches and salads run at about $7-$10, and that’s without a drink!  And we know that even the bottled water runs $1-2 dollars each too.

When I worked in an office job I always brought my lunch.  I just brought leftovers from dinner the night before.  Not only did I eat healthier but I saved a LOT of money!

5)  Cook once, eat twice (or three times). You’ll save both money and TIME if you cook larger amounts and use the extra for leftovers.  Cook once for today’s meal, then put the leftovers in the fridge (for the next days lunch, just like tip #4), or you can even freeze a serving or two for when you need a quick meal but don’t have the time to cook.

6)  Make your own coffee or latte. Do you really need to spend $3-$4 per coffee each day?  If you purchase just one coffee a day (and I know many people that buy 2 or more) with the coffee or latte costing between $3-$4, making your own at home and bringing it with you to work could save you $90-$120 per month or $1080-$1400 per year!  That’s big bucks!

And if you want another coffee during the day, just buy a basic coffee machine for the office.  It will really save you money and you can then ‘splurge’ for the occasional latte once in a while.

7)  Shop at ethnic grocery stores. They’re showing up in more and more cities and neighborhoods and becoming easier to find. My husband and I shop at Middle Eastern, Asian, Indian and Mexican ethnic stores.  You can find spices, rice, olives, pastries (REAL pastries, not the sugar-loaded bland stuff at the supermarket) and even produce at a fraction of the cost you’ll find at regular grocery stores.  You just might be surprised at the values and quality you can find.

8)  Go to the store with a list, stick to it, and leave the kids at home. Okay, I know my husband is reading this right now and shaking his head.  I admit that when I go to the grocery store I often come home with more than I needed.  But it’s something I’m working on and my hubby can attest that I’m getting much better

So shop for only what you need and don’t spend forever in the store buying extra items.  You’ll not only spend more, but chances are many of those ‘additional’ items will just end up going bad and in the trash bin.

For moms:  leave the kids at home.  This way you’re not tempted to give in to pressure from a crying child saying “I want this!”

9)  Shop at the local farmer’s market. This time of year they’re available in many cities and sprouting up in suburbs too.  Chances are the produce is organic (read: healthier) and didn’t have to travel far to get to you, cutting down on costs.  You’ll also only find what’s in season (see tip #1) and get to know the people who cultivated the food.

10)  Save on protein foods. At least once a week try to substitute inexpensive, vegetarian sources sch as beans, legumes, tofu, and eggs instead of the more expensive meat, fish or poultry.  You could also try using a smaller portion of meat, fish or poultry and extending the dish with more whole grains, beans, eggs or vegetables.  It will save you money and is really much healthier.

If you remember just one thing, remember this:  ideal food is nutrient-dense (as in fruits, whole grains, and vegetables), not calorie-dense (convenience and junk food) and the least expensive may be fresh, frozen or canned.

Eating healthier can really save you decent money and just may help you lose a few pounds.

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